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haughty ibex
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Which is why people like u exist, to balance out the stupidity with level headed ness

midnight crest
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Man I just hope she's fine but whew i got heated haha

haughty ibex
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Yup

keen kestrel
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Did u try dming her?

midnight crest
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Did u try dming her?
@keen kestrel yeah I did and just gave her all my advice and told her to not heed the a lot of the others' advice

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No amount of them saying "I'm going to kill him" is gonna get rid of the stalker man

keen kestrel
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That's the best you could have done

naive skiff
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^

pallid ember
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i think the best advice is to get the right information and facts from her, as you have, and then get her to talk to both legal and police help

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you have done the best someone can do outside of being in closely connected with them

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good job one atleast properly acting

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compared to the other people in that discord

tropic hound
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@midnight crest there's always childish idiots who say random shit in serious situations, best you can do is ignore them and make sure she also gets actual advice.

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because as some smart dude once said, who's name I probably forgot, but he was smart trust me

"Don't try arguing with an idiot, because he will bring you down to his level and then crush you w experience"
Or something along those lines

naive skiff
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I heard that before

midnight crest
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Lol yeah I just DMed her and gave proper advice and told her to not heed a lot of their words

midnight crest
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Update: apparently the server owner and participant in the whole fiasco somehow blames me for "not expressing myself well"

naive skiff
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what

midnight crest
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Exactly

naive skiff
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wth is wrong with them?

muted pond
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wtf

midnight crest
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A friend saw the situation and DMed the owner to see how they'd respond

naive skiff
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why are people so inconsiderate

muted pond
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what kind of server is this

midnight crest
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Basically owner said: oh we were just joking around, they weren't serious, salt should've made it clear to us, she could've DMed her straight

naive skiff
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smh

midnight crest
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"it's not my fault that she didn't express it to us"

naive skiff
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'they weren't serious' during a serious situation

midnight crest
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Lol

muted pond
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just trying to save face

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smh

midnight crest
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It's not about me ma'am, it's about the victim and how lightly you took her situation

naive skiff
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well what if they were in that situation

midnight crest
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God I honestly doubt they were joking during that

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Even though the victim's scared and apprehensive

naive skiff
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||Also I think this contradicts what you said about your EQ of a brick||

midnight crest
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They were just stroking each other's metaphorical dicks

naive skiff
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I shouldn't say it but I get the feeling like they were innit together

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if the stalker was from the server that is

midnight crest
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I hate to say it but their entire discord feels like a flock of sheep in an echo chamber

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A toxic and close minded environment

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Say your opinion confidently enough and they'll agree to it

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But neways it's not about the discord

muted pond
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||THE EARTH IS FLAT||

unreal oak
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echo chambers are more common than you think

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they're everywhere

midnight crest
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I'm just appalled that they handled the victim's situation so poorly

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They could've risked her damn life

naive skiff
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Yep

midnight crest
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There's times when you shouldn't make it about yourself dammit

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And they were there giving dangerous advice

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"Confront your stalker" BRO

naive skiff
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"There's a time and place for everything but not now"

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People tend to be insensitive

midnight crest
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Change your routine to throw off the stalker
"If she's uncomfortable she has to deal with it. There's no need to change her entire routine for something like this" BRO

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That's literally advice police would give and you say lmao nah

muted pond
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man wtf kind of shitty discord community is that

midnight crest
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Ppl who offer help when they're clearly not capable of it

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god

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I'm not even mad anymore

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I'm disappointed at how they handled the whole situation

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Someone's safety was at stake

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They dealt with it like that

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And to think some of them are the same age as me

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They're legally adults

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Bro..... I admit I have no filter and pretty low EQ but goddamn that entire situation made me feel like I had 200EQ

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Okay end rant. The victim's gonna tell her parents so I hope everything's fine on her end.

haughty ibex
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Claytea well handled situation

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👍 👍

vivid coral
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👍

midnight crest
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Internalized racism is so prevalent here that I just listened to my mum casually make racist remarks like she's talking about the weather

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I'm so annoyed

north karma
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Boomers

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Its normal for boomer imo

midnight crest
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Man when even my sis thinks like that....

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"yeah sure BLM is important but there are other more important things"

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Man

unreal oak
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"yeah sure BLM is important but there are other more important things"
@midnight crest tbh that's kinda understandable even if not justifiable

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Asians living in Asia have no reason to relate to or be concerned about a race they may almost never meet in their day to day life

midnight crest
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I get it but when in the context of "that's their own problem" it gets frustrating

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My sister's in Canada tho

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She'd see it more than us in Malaysia

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And tbh as Chinese ppl living in a country that's built upon race privileges and whatnot

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It's weird that a lot of ppl don't get it while turning around and complaining how we're treated different in our own country

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I'm not even saying we have it as bad

unreal oak
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The racism within Asian countries tbh can get miles worse than what blacks deal with in the US tbh

midnight crest
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At least I can say that I won't get police called on me for breathing

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Mhm

unreal oak
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its not even systemic in Asia, its normal

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like take Malaysia

midnight crest
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And the whole "why should we help them when they've done nothing for us"

unreal oak
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I'm Tamil, probs would get shit on day in and day out

midnight crest
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Like yeah ig you can't be empathetic and compassionate for other ppl

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No offense but yeah you would probably

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Not in front of u tho

unreal oak
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Yeah some of my closest friends in uni have lived in malaysia

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so heard the stories

midnight crest
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Just casual complaints when they're at home to the family lol

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Like today

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Fun

unreal oak
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honestly if someone was bitching about my race behind my back, i woudnt give a shit 😂

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as long as i can get what i need to get done from them

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but then im thicker skinned than most

midnight crest
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It's so insensitive and rude though tbh

unreal oak
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years of insults ftw

midnight crest
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Haha they're born a certain race lol lmao

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So funny

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I can kinda get it korthi

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Squinty eye and eat dog jokes ftw

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Neways yeah I'm just venting about how stupid all of it is

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But on the bright side I know what not to do and what to teach my kids if I ever have them

unreal oak
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Squinty eye and eat dog jokes ftw
@midnight crest i've only ever made those jokes once tbh, and that was as a comeback to this chinese girl

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who was making show bobs and vegana jokes

midnight crest
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Heh

unreal oak
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The girl also said something on the lines of indians are dirty or sth

midnight crest
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Ahh the classic stereotype

unreal oak
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and my friend was like y'all gave us corona now tell me who is dirty

midnight crest
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Hhhhhhh

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Not gonna comment

vivid coral
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honestly if someone was bitching about my race behind my back, i woudnt give a shit 😂
yeh man it happens quite a bit in malaysia haha, there's this slogan called like satu malaysia, which means one malaysia, or a united country which is true to an extent, but it's also a pretty divided country lul

midnight crest
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Damn I left toxic server with a few choice words

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"experiencing your server Pavlov'd me to associate annoyance and frustration with it that seeing notifs from you pissed me off"
"But I hope you'll grow up alright and stay safe"

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I paraphrased my own message yes

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And someone from it came and was like, "hi is it me and blah"

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And I told her straight and she went on a massive tirade pointing fingers at me

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Turns out the entire server shared a common trait

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Amusing

keen kestrel
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Good thing you left GWseremePeepoThink

naive skiff
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Yep good thing

muted pond
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/delete toxic server

keen kestrel
humble pulsar
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U just did

wintry rampart
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tbh, having a spoiled brother makes me want to snap...

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my mother yelled at me all because of him throwing a stupid tantrum all cause i took a crap before he even took a bath...

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he honestly doesn't care about anyone else except for him...

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and that he always gets what he wants... only for my mom to blame me all because i had to do something urgent for my health

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all the thoughts in my head now are "should i use fear to make him ensure that i'm no person to mess with?", "should i just abandon him so that he would learn from his mistakes?"

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i've thought of using violence to condition him into fearing me... using psychological methods to torment him until he says "sorry" to me...

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she threatened abandonment and punished me by wanting to see me in bed an hour earlier...

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and it's all his fault...

wintry rampart
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he's just enjoying what he has and i'm just sitting here... crying all cause of him...

keen kestrel
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I'm not spoiled, and I'm thankful for that. It allowed me to build up my self confidence and enhance my life skills.

tawdry star
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See, one day he'll loose it all in a day, lying there all weak because of it. But you're stronger, remember that

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So have a talk with your mom, and tell her you feel hurt and that this yelling needs to stop

wintry rampart
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indeed... if he retains that spoiled mood in his adulthood, he could end up in much more legal trouble... possibly even jail time for being such a spoiled brat...

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and the situation regarding my mom was successfully defused...

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i was just concerned for his behavior.

tawdry star
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Dw he'll learn

wintry rampart
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of course... my therapist tells me to ignore him cause he's someone completely different from me, even if i am his sibling...

narrow crane
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hey err is this gc legit? i genuinely wanna know because well

naive skiff
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@narrow crane yes this is legit

narrow crane
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aight well then, how does it wOrk

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do i jus

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vent out my issues or sum

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I DONT WANT TO SOUND PROBLEMATIC THOUGH

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OR LIEK

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oh god

lost skiff
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@narrow crane iz ok u can vent abt anything u want here, nobodies gonna judge u ^^

naive skiff
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Do whatever you feel like

tropic hound
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holy shit

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that sounds

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Ouch

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and that's not how it works here sir/ma'am we don't ignore anybodies problems @narrow crane

lost skiff
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Ma'am*

tropic hound
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oof mb

narrow crane
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wait a sec

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ARE YOU

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THE KID WHO HELPED ME WID PHYSICS?

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BECAUSE

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i got sum news for u my dude,,

tropic hound
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wassup

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I might have been i help a lot of ppl

narrow crane
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oh

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WELL I PASSED

tropic hound
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epic!

narrow crane
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however, i failed the moments questions sigh

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but issok

tropic hound
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failure leads to success :D

muted pond
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?

tropic knoll
mild compass
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Come to Radio rn for mental support

mild compass
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@wooden elm needs mental support help him

azure grail
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I hate alcoholics

tropic hound
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Is it normal to feel numb
Is it normal to feel like nothing matters
Is it normal to feel like jumping off a bridge, but not wanting to die
Is it normal to be unmotivated to do anything other than stare at the walls and feel like a sack of shit
Is it normal to think life is meaningless
Is it normal to feel like nobody cares, while subconsciously knowing there are people who do
Is it normal to feel like you're not doing enough
Is it normal to occasionally zone out and make sure you're still breathing
Is it normal to occasionally slap yourself just to make sure you're awake and alive.
Is it normal to feel like you're not doing enough
Is it normal to feel like every choice you've made is wrong
Is it normal to feel like tasting death but coming right back
Is it normal to feel numb
Is it normal to be sad for no reason other than being sad
Is it normal to hate yourself and like yourself at the same time
Is it normal to always be stuck in thought
Is it normal to want to be different but not know who you want to be
Is it normal to feel like this
Is it normal to bottle up your feelings in front of those who would understand

I'm slowly going insane and I don't know how to stop it.

Sorry for the wall of text, just needed to get that all off my chest. if you read through it all, thank you, it means a lot.

muted pond
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I read
Yes it is normal

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Get well soon

haughty ibex
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I read too

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Its normal to feel like that rixzz....i rlly hope u feel better soonheartlove

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@tropic hound

cosmic ginkgo
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Read it too, you're not alone rizzo

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Sometimes you need that time alone even if there are people who will listen

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Take care of yourselfghosthug

north karma
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@tropic hound sums up my quarantine

haughty ibex
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Hi

muted pond
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Hello

crystal halo
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If it's just an uncommon once or twice occurrence, then I think people will forget it.

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if that is the case, then I'd say you're actually being very considerate of their feelings by trying to better yourself.

crystal halo
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However, if you think that it is an issue that truly deteriorates your connections with others...well actually bettering yourself would still be a reasonable action.

crystal halo
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@wooden elm my apologies, then how about you do something good for them in atonement? Something truly honest and selfless that shows what you are truly like beyond your words, one that overshadows your undoing.

muted pond
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Hmm

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Interesting

crystal halo
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uhh, thanks?

muted pond
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I was referring to Melon's situation

crystal halo
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oh okay

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quite Ironic since I couldn't interpret the statements correctly

muted pond
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That's okay

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Miscommunication is a part of human nature

crystal halo
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yeah and that's just my take on your situation, the core of my ideology right now is doing good without expecting a reward and whatever good and bad things come your way must be accepted with open arms

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so my solution might just come off as being...general purpose...

midnight crest
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I'm kind of annoyed

cosmic ginkgo
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whats up @midnight crest?

midnight crest
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So my dad got injured like last month and he's recuperating but they went to the doc again today and doc said he needs to undergo surgery for his arm and now its a big mess

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Hhhhhh I'm kinda just tired mentally from all this

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Especially since I had to delay my plans for uni

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And I was planning to go out with a friend to celebrate her birthday but had to cancel last minute

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Just a bit frustrated that this series of events killed most of my free time now and cancelling plans

cosmic ginkgo
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:///

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@midnight crest sending you love and hugsss as backup for no parties :(

tropic hound
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ma'am*

haughty ibex
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Lots of hugs n chocolate cookies for uuu

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@midnight crest

violet lantern
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Is it normal to feel numb
Is it normal to feel like nothing matters
Is it normal to feel like jumping off a bridge, but not wanting to die
Is it normal to be unmotivated to do anything other than stare at the walls and feel like a sack of shit
Is it normal to think life is meaningless
Is it normal to feel like nobody cares, while subconsciously knowing there are people who do
Is it normal to feel like you're not doing enough
Is it normal to occasionally zone out and make sure you're still breathing
Is it normal to occasionally slap yourself just to make sure you're awake and alive.
Is it normal to feel like you're not doing enough
Is it normal to feel like every choice you've made is wrong
Is it normal to feel like tasting death but coming right back
Is it normal to feel numb
Is it normal to be sad for no reason other than being sad
Is it normal to hate yourself and like yourself at the same time
Is it normal to always be stuck in thought
Is it normal to want to be different but not know who you want to be
Is it normal to feel like this
Is it normal to bottle up your feelings in front of those who would understand

I'm slowly going insane and I don't know how to stop it.

Sorry for the wall of text, just needed to get that all off my chest. if you read through it all, thank you, it means a lot.
@tropic hound

None of this is normal, these are the symptoms of a mental illness if symptoms have been prolonging for a long period of time. Thoughts of suicide are certainly NOT normal.

As painful it is to live like this, I am afraid that seeking shallow sympathy and validation from strangers can only take you so far.

If you can go seek help, go seek it at the designated place for the provision of specialist mental health support, otherwise I suggest taking it to people you trust. I am baffled and surprised at the response you got here; people saying that this is normal, or "it will get better in time"

tropic hound
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ngl i respect these kinds of replies

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but yeah im good, just had a bad day

muted pond
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@keen kestrel you're right, this should be renamed to #venting

keen kestrel
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@tropic knoll

muted pond
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I am baffled and surprised at the response you got here; people saying that this is normal, or "it will get better in time"
@violet lantern Thanks for pointing this out
Honestly quite embarrassing for me atleast because I used to give atleast somewhat half-decent advice on here

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Sorry @tropic hound

muted pond
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Okay this is now venting

winged seal
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im venting rn because i am extremely angry at the community in this server 🤬

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they are attacking me for no reason and its so mean

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grrrrrrrrr

keen kestrel
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🤔

wintry rampart
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to be fairly honest, i do really want to teach my brother how to be right, the hard way

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as a result of his silly nonsense, which is singing the weeknd, ruining his lyrics into some "f" graded art project made by a preschooler, i got into trouble

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i was snitched by him into having my mom know that i play my xbox on school days and had her threaten me to cut my education, therapy and everything else cause she thinks that i'm not improving at all or the fact that i'm "playing" the entire day.

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my mother thinks that stripping my xbox privileges would "make me 5000% more smarter" when it has slight effects on my academics?

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no wonder why that brother of mine likes to trigger me, maybe i am beginning to experience ptsd

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of the psychological abuse i have succumbed for years

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everyday, as he begins to act as if he's becoming more "intimidating", by screaming loud like a fighter jet when i try talking his behaviors out, i feel extremely concerned.

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will he be like that when he grows up? will he blame me for everything that he's done?

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i do not like that "get my elder brother in trouble cause i like to" personality of his

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now, i'll lose control of my xbox, only playing it three days a week

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and it's all his fault

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that stupid oaf

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always trying to get me in trouble

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for his pleasure

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one day... he'll learn, the hard way...

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by losing access to a part of some insurance that i will be expected to receive

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mom told me to split the insurance money with him once something bad happens.

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i would not do it. instead, i'll donate his cut to charity

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at the expense of having him to learn everything, "the hard way"

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with no money to fund him and his family, he'd learn what happens when he messes with me, too much.

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i'm scared.

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why wouldn’t he listen to me?

crystal halo
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that's a lot, damn

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was he always like that or did something change him?

wintry rampart
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that happened ever since a year ago

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he would attempt to get me on trouble, either intentionally or unintentionally

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i still haven't understood his dirty intentions

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i really never want to put stress on my mother, but i think that he wants that to happen

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and as a result, i now want to put him in the most trouble for what he's been doing to me.

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and he deserves it.

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for a year, i was deceived into thinking that he has forgot about it, realizing that what he was doing was wrong

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and still, nothing changed.

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everytime i try to talk him out of causing mayhem, he ignores it.

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or worsens the situation

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he would "sing" something that triggers me, and laugh as i get yelled at by mom

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he has signs of cognitive delay, excess arrogance and a speech delay

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and his mindset could be "whatever i think is right, i do it, even if it is wrong, according to my brother"

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i have considered on telling his speech therapist on how defiant and repetitive he is.

haughty ibex
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Damn kelpy

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R u gud at all?

wintry rampart
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i'm doing alright

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i was too distressed last night

tribal sandal
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I can't call this amazing advice, but i think you should tell your mother what he's doing. What i do know, whatever people say, people do change and i really doubt your brother will be like that his entire life.

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You doing okay @wintry rampart

wintry rampart
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yes, indeed.

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i just told my brother's speech therapist, and now, my mother is completely aware of it.

tribal sandal
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Good to hear, best of luck

muted pond
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^ Hope all works out

wintry rampart
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indeed. i guess that i should ignore his pranks more often.

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👍

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that's exactly what my therapist tells me.

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no

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Kelpy G was a character from Spongebob.

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i decided to change the middle initial cause why not?

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XD

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ahh...

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yes... so i guess that i should understand him more.

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i have been telling his therapists about his weird behaviors rather than yelling at him to stop.

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is this a better thing to do other than confronting him?

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indeed. the only things i tell to my mother are how defiant he is

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or whether his actions caused property damage.

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yes

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he was already scolded for kicking the walls of his classroom so hard, the paint fell off

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his choice of words by far are what triggers me the most

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cause i unintentionally exposed him to the weeknd years ago, and now, he would sing his songs, on an extremely toddler-ish way.

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what i mean by "toddler-ish way" is that he would often mispronounce lyrics.

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exactly.

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as of now, he is doing it less often

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rather, he is attempting to get me interested in horror games

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of course.

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this is why i always wear earphones whenever i listen to music

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i assume.

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i'd rather watch him play and commentate on his gameplay rather than playing the actual game.

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that is one thing that my therapists tell me too.

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"he'll grow out of it because he thinks that i do not like being joked on".

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i'll take that as an additional.

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sure. thanks for the advice.

midnight crest
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Hhhhh I'm so tired

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Family stress and results stress catching up to me man

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Thought I'd have a decent rest time but guess not

latent onyx
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Mood

hardy halo
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ever since I had a very (un)fortunate event happen to me

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it left permanent changes

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I get dull pains on my chest

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sometimes it gets worse, to the degree that it feels like someone has put a time-bomb in my heart

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even though it shouldn't be a health concern

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but it's irritating af

hearty apex
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i’m so sorry to hear that auri maybe try talking to doctor

muted pond
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i think doctor would be how she found out it isn't a health concern ig idk

hardy halo
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yep

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the doctor said there's nothing wrong

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so he referred me to psychiatry

hearty apex
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then try a therapist and if you can’t talk to a friend you trust

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that might help

violet lantern
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what is it called when someone you have a relationship with talks about you first thing they meet acquaintances such as employees at a supermarket or neighbours, talking about how great your relationship is with them and how great you are towards them

but at home they have constant mood swings where they diss you and pull off subtle offensive remarks, and you two constantly bicker and argue. this person does this even when you are very ill and are going through an emergency hospital visit. you have to tolerate this crap while you're breaking down in a panic attack as well, not knowing you'll live or die because you've been chronically ill for a year.

you are stuck with this person because you have nowhere to physically go and if you leave, you'll be homeless.

the reason you are so low and helpless is because this person's negligence is responsible for destroying your career and success, and all that's left now is that you can leech at the cost of your dignity, simultaneously while they alienate you from everyone else pretending nothing is wrong so you can't speak out. if you do speak out, everyone will think you're crazy or the bad person.

you are also socially isolated with no support at all.

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what is this syndrome called

unreal oak
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its not called a syndrome, its called abuse

tawdry star
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Yepp

unreal oak
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damn mate what did you do-

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ive done a lot of nasty shit to a lot of people in my past, but no one has wanted me dead

north karma
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ive done a lot of nasty shit to a lot of people in my past, but no one has wanted me dead
Ah yes i remember the time korthi created a python script that allowed him access into the pentagon and launched nukes around the world

pallid ember
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God @proven pond steals my brand and image. That's the end of my vent

proven pond
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¬~¬ u started it first

pallid ember
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@proven pond cat

midnight crest
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I'm so glad to report that a concussion wasn't enough to warrant a trip to the doctor

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So glad

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Oh my head aches when I breathe? Minor nuisance

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I'm such a hassle to my parents huh

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:)

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At this point I'm surprised I'm still alive

rough karma
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are you feeling ok now @midnight crest ?

midnight crest
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A sore back, an achy neck joint and bitter disappointmet in my parents but other than that I'm p sure I'm fine

midnight crest
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Considering a potential brain injury wasn't enough to warrant me a trip to the doctor

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I'm surprised how my parents managed to keep me alive all these years

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I'm looking for a doc that's open today

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Since it's a public holiday

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I'm going myself at this point

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The last time I went to a doc my mum lied to the doc about my symptoms

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It's seriously a miracle that I'm still alive and breathing rn

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Other than making it seem like I'm shit to my body idk

wintry rampart
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jeez... my stats course is worse than stats 1&2 combined.

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like seriously, most of my class is literally failing cause of how hard and stupid the questions are.

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unlike a level & ib stats, the question structure makes it more difficult to identify which distribution to use, especially the binomial/negative binomial and bernoulli questions

north karma
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@wintry rampart are you in uni?
@wooden elm wouldnt his undergrad tag give it away?

wintry rampart
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i just started college last month.

hardy halo
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I'm tired of people emotionally manipulating me again and again

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Using a relative's death and my hospitalised mother as an excuse to make me go into medicine

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One and a half months left

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And it's all over

tropic hound
#

what the fuck that shit's messed up

tawdry star
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Using a relative's death and my hospitalised mother as an excuse to make me go into medicine
@hardy halo okay that is messed up

unreal oak
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nothing surprises me when it comes to Asian parents anymore

tawdry star
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Yeahh

hardy halo
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I don't even know how to act properly anymore

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The relative's my grandma from my mom's side, even though I really don't feel sad about her death

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And I don't have strong feelings about my mom in the hospital

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It's more like ''if that's so, then focus on the problem at hand''

tropic hound
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i sorta have this mentality where "alright shit happens I just gotta deal with it"

hardy halo
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Look, if I'm going into medicine, I swear I can be either sued for malpractice or commit suicide

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Because I'm not the type to become a doctor

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I highly dislike it when people think they know me better than I know myself

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''this is all for your good! you don't know what's good for you''

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As if like being the one whom you are enforcing your unachieved hopes upon is good for me

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One and a half months left

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And it's all over

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Why do some people have the sheer audacity to patronise for me on the excuse 'I know you better than you do' is beyond me

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Even if their choice is plain stupid, I can't speak against it because 'this is good for you'

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And even if their choice has backfired on themselves, I'll be blamed for not objecting it

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What the fuck

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I never saw such stupidity before

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At least yesterday I got them to admit they were using me as a projection of their unfilled hopes

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I've been suspecting this for six years, but never had the exact verbal confirmation

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It's a relief to hear the statement being spoken openly

mild compass
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I feel kinda stressed or worried at the fact that I will be forced to resit or sit for exams as looking at what the sqa boad has done kinda worried for international what grade I will get feel pressue is building on me

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Considering its 8 or 7 days to go

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I feel pressure is now hitting me

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Where I cant sleep even I struggle

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The fact that I know I did well in my online exams for my predicted grades hoping to get a good result

hardy halo
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is it something your being forced into? Do you at least have a choice even though they are suggesting one thing?

The claim is: I have a choice, yet in practice, no

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It's not guilt, it's I've been guilt-tripped for more than a decade with all sorts of reasons

cosmic ginkgo
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Couldn't you go about the route of saying doing chem for the same reasons that they ask you to do medicine? Drug manufacturing and the like?

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Or now that they've admitted projecting their hopes on you, to drive it in and say it doesn't work that way? Okay that doesn't work in Asian families fuck

hardy halo
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once I get my masters in 4 years

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then I'll become financially independent

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it's the only way out

#

they pay PhD students

tawdry star
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then I'll become financially independent
@hardy halo yeahh that's the way

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Or now that they've admitted projecting their hopes on you, to drive it in and say it doesn't work that way? Okay that doesn't work in Asian families fuck
@cosmic ginkgo honestly nothing works

haughty ibex
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@hardy halo its a bit late but how r u feelin nowm

hardy halo
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stable

haughty ibex
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Gud

wooden elm
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ok mass deleting messages wont put me off the leaderboard rip

naive skiff
#

why is this in venting?

wooden elm
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cuz im mad about it

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isn't this channel for venting now?

naive skiff
#

I'll be taking over soon ig

hardy halo
#

I really hate taking medications that targets the brain

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for normal people, they have a time of around a week before the molecule reaches its blood dosage peak

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mine's like 2h or something

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the first SSRI has an adverse effect of inducing manic-like symptoms in me, and the second creates a chloride ion overload

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I'm sluggish and tired yet my brain's firing hypermaniacal signals

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it's crazy

tight bay
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Stupid IGCSE

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Stupid grades

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Mine were shit asf

pastel ocean
#

Dude Cambridge is rigged I went from an A* to B in my A Level subject.

abstract fractal
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did they give u derived grades

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or predicted grades or smth

amber otter
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i was hoping getting As would boost my morales .

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but i only came to a realization that my parents expectations are so freaking illogical and unachievable

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like wtf ?

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asian parents man god DDAMMITT

tawdry star
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Yeah it be like that

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Set your own expectations, it is very hard and almost impossible to impress them so please don't keep your happiness or self-worth there imo

mild compass
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my dad is just flipping at me over my grades and i dont have any control over them saying i dont put efort than what he expects and etc its annoying as he doesnt know how grades were ranked this year he just thinking these olden school days

wooden elm
#

asian parents man god DDAMMITT
@amber otter are you studying for your parents?

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are you studying to satisfy them?

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If not, ignore

midnight crest
#

The more I'm applying for unis the less I wanna actually go for uni

north karma
#

Why

haughty ibex
midnight crest
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Uni is expensive and I'm worried I'm gonna be wasting 4 years for something i don't care about

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Even though my parents assure me that they can afford it they'll hang it over my head if I underperform just like what they did to my brother

hardy halo
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after controlling me and breathing down my neck for practically my entire life

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they wonder why am I on antidepressants

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haha

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my heart hurts and I have no control over it, and I absolutely hate it when I have violent outbursts

tawdry star
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It's alright imo, you're merely expressing yourself, but just know this, sometimes you just can't expect empathy from them, you have to play the cards differently. And it'll sometimes kill you a little in the inside to compromise sometimes but it's a long term solution

hardy halo
#

my being was build on compromises

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still am to some extent

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I'm already dead; there is no need to kill me any further

north karma
#

Is this what biology does to a human?

tawdry star
#

I'm already dead; there is no need to kill me any further
@hardy halo ://

stark marsh
#

Just wanted to say that my parents expect a lot from me but I don’t have the capabilities of making that possible.I simply can’t do it.Even after disappointing them, they still have loads of expectations from me.I feel like I don’t have the potential to do it.The reason they have high expectations from me was because I used to be a maths genius until now,I don’t study as much now (not because it was too hard for me to handle ).Just wanted to vent out because I’m not sure on what to do.I feel constantly tired,and studying doesn’t stick out to me.I don’t know if I should live up to their expectations or tell them that I’m not capable and my sibling can do much better than me.

hardy halo
#

it sounds like a classical case of depression

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please get checked out by a professional

#

@stark marsh

bitter cave
#

I am at a crossroad lol. I want to actually pursue music and be a performer, but as I am studious and the only one in the family who scores high marks in exams, I am forced to go to uni. I cry every now and then because I know my dreams won't come true. I don't even know why I am living now. I am the happiest on stage and nothing compares to the euphoria when I am pouring out my emotions through a song.

civic bronze
#

@bitter cave I know it seems like you're giving up your dream but going to uni doesn't have to mean that 🙂 If you truly are passionate then whatever situation you are place in, I am sure you will be able to find a way to do what you love. And uni is a great place to discover yourself, find people with similar interests and grow your interests. Just after school, I thought i would be spending every waking minute studying and going to lectures. It turned out that over the 4 years I travelled, picked up new hobbies and bagged myself a math degree too. Wherever you end up and whatever you do, music and performing will always be a part of you - just a find a way to keep doing it!

stark marsh
#

it sounds like a classical case of depression
Auri#6577 as ignorant as I may be I don’t think that’s the case (cuz I’ve already had my fair share) it’s that as the oldest in the house I’ve taken up all these expectations and it’s kinda burdening me.I don’t want to be a person someone can expect great out of nor expect nothing out of.

#

Just that I have no idea how to lead my future anymore

#

I just contradict everything.

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I want to experience something new and refreshing that’s all it takes for me to get back

hardy halo
#

if you can rule out that the bar of what consists mental disfunction has not been raised too high by your history

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my latter point still stands

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do get checked out by a professional

bitter cave
#

@bitter cave I know it seems like you're giving up your dream but going to uni doesn't have to mean that 🙂 If you truly are passionate then whatever situation you are place in, I am sure you will be able to find a way to do what you love. And uni is a great place to discover yourself, find people with similar interests and grow your interests. Just after school, I thought i would be spending every waking minute studying and going to lectures. It turned out that over the 4 years I travelled, picked up new hobbies and bagged myself a math degree too. Wherever you end up and whatever you do, music and performing will always be a part of you - just a find a way to keep doing it!
@civic bronze Really? Then that would be great. I really don't want to give up on my dream. Thanks for cheering me up! :)

tropic hound
#

nice ghost ping bro

scenic crow
#

i saw that

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u ass

mild compass
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I did too

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piss off idiot

civic bronze
#

et moi

tropic hound
#

wow

rough dove
opaque mica
#

me no understand french

scenic crow
#

wait @tropic hound didnt u ping

tropic hound
#

zntranslate fr en et moi

marsh daggerBOT
#
Translator

Translating from fr to en

Source :

et moi

Translated to :

and me

tropic hound
#

wait @tropic hound didnt u ping
@scenic crow i pinged in chat lounge not here

scenic crow
#

it's and i @civic bronze 😆

fallen mesa
#

@small blaze why

willow hornet
#

EVERYONE AND I MEAN EVERYONE AROUND ME IS DATING AND YEAH I KNOW IM NOT SUPPOSED TO VENT ABOUT THIS STUFF BUT IVE HAD IT TILL HERE AND NOW IM BEING PEER PRESSURED INTO DATING AND ITS NOT FAIR I JUST WANNA VIBE ALONE

tropic hound
#

ngl same

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relationships too much work

#

vibing alone much better

scenic crow
#

a whole mood ™

willow hornet
#

i swear but lik

#

call me crazy but im waiting for THE ONE

#

yk?

tropic hound
#

yeah I get you

willow hornet
#

but iss pissing off

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CAUSE SHES PROBABLY DOING DUMB SHIT

#

which would lowkey be awesome if i knew her :/

tropic hound
#

You'll find her sometime dude

#

Just get out there and you'll find the person you're looking for

willow hornet
#

yeah man lets hope

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thanks g

midnight crest
#

Ahhhhhhhhhh

#

My dad. Wtf

#

Educagent gave me an option to study environmental engineering and i told my fam about it

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And my sis asked if I wanted to go for it

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But I said parents didn't allow it and m dad got offended lmao

#

Bruh he said it himself that I shouldn't go for it

unreal oak
#

But I said parents didn't allow it and m dad got offended lmao
@midnight crest ahh that happens

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Even if they do something shitty, they get annoyed if you make them lose face by being honest about it to someone else

north karma
#

will be honest, its your dads ego from what I know he probably wants your sister to think she is a better father than he was, again I wouldn't go after someones parents in normal circumstances
@wooden elm no buddy u wont go after any parents in any circumstances

midnight crest
#

Nahh my sis is Team Parents all the way

haughty ibex
#

Feel better soon!!

junior lotus
#

people my age are doing so much and i am just here
i feel like i will live and i will die, never having amounted to anything. i do not want to be just another person in this world but doing anything worth something is just so hard and my parents never appreciate me i know they love me yes but ah

#

i no longer care about their acceptance or gratification i am doing all of this for me

#

but everything is uncertain and it gets a lot, a lot of the time

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and to top that the person i am in love with and the only one i might have a real chance with ever, is moving to a whole different fucking continent

north karma
#

@junior lotus watch this

midnight crest
#

Hhhhhh

#

Two unis offered me a spot and scholarship but my parents dont want it cus it's not in the Australia's Group of Eight

north karma
#

Im not white enough to understand what the australias group of eight even is

midnight crest
#

Think Ivy League but it's Australian Uni

#

Bruh i was offered a scholarship to Uni of Western Aus and they told me to turn it down????????

#

And bruh I was offered to study env engineering but I turned it down cus my parents said no but now my parents are like, "when have we ever said that?"

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,,,You have?????

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That's why I didn't go for it???

#

Hhhhhhhhh

north karma
#

Wait how much do they cover in ur scholarship

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Percentage wise

scenic crow
#

@midnight crest it's YOUR life and YOUR career. if you're gonna make a decision that they're preferring make sure u can deal w it long term

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else you'll just end up resenting them for all ur life

north karma
#

Aiyo fam she would if she could

scenic crow
#

at the end of the day even though it's easier said than done, talk to them and go w what u want

#

they're ur parents and will stand by u eventually

#

Aiyo fam she would if she could
@north karma wdym

north karma
#

Its not easy to get visas, a parttime job and a place to stay yk

#

at the end of the day even though it's easier said than done, talk to them and go w what u want
@scenic crow but i do still recommend this

tawdry star
#

Aiyo fam she would if she could
@north karma yaaa

hardy halo
#

fml

#

I had to endure a full hour of my dad's emotional manipulation

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just now

#

I don't know which is the worst part: the fact that he has been doing this for more than 10 years, while in full denial, or was that I have to pretend I'm a total ignoramus who haven't gave this a single thought

#

every decision I make that involves him

midnight crest
#

Wait how much do they cover in ur scholarship
@north karma parents don't care about the scholarship part they just want me to get into a top uni basically

hardy halo
#

I have to consider tens of hundreds of future scenarios which might happen, and impact the trajectory

north karma
#

So ur telling me

midnight crest
#

at the end of the day even though it's easier said than done, talk to them and go w what u want
@scenic crow tried and tested, didn't work. They don't have other requirements other than top uni and STEM degree

north karma
#

Ur parents rather pay full fucking fees to get into a top uni

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As opposed to a decent/good uni with scholarship

#

Fucking wot?

hardy halo
#

Ur parents rather pay full fucking fees to get into a top uni
As opposed to a decent/good uni with scholarship

#

common af amongst asian parents

midnight crest
#

¯_(ツ)_/¯

hardy halo
#

my parents does it also

#

I swear

#

when I applied to TU delft/Leiden I had to deliberately keep the news out of my dad's earshot

#

I could get a full scholarship there, and even not, I could have easily paid off the student loan by myself if I studied there instead

#

and now I'm in my room, hearing my dad in the other room calling my mom telling her how inconsiderate and ignorant I am

#

gentleman, if I truly am ignorant, you would not have the need to book me with a psychiatrist in the first bloody place

tawdry star
#

common af amongst asian parents
@hardy halo yeahh

midnight crest
#

There's a degree I've been eyeing but it's not a stem degree

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I know I can take it but I'd have to double major

#

Since it's not stem

#

But I just said fuck it and asked if there were programmes for some other degrees as well

#

Broaden my options a bit

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I've looked at the word environmental so much it doesn't look like a proper word anymore

vivid coral
#

PeepoThink at the end of the day does it rlly matter what uni you go to? it's what you make of the degree and education you get, right?

#

parents really do be stubborn at times PepeHands

tawdry star
#

Yepp that's true :/

midnight crest
#

PeepoThink at the end of the day does it rlly matter what uni you go to? it's what you make of the degree and education you get, right?
@vivid coral probably yeah if I wanna get PR

unreal oak
#

PeepoThink at the end of the day does it rlly matter what uni you go to? it's what you make of the degree and education you get, right?
@vivid coral in many fields it still does matter sadly

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esp the ones where your success relies on who you know much more than what you know

midnight crest
#

UWA offered me a spot, a scholarship and it's in the group of 8
Dad: lmao it's in last place of go8 that's not enough

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,,are u kidding ne

midnight crest
#

Oh I see

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Top 3 in that country of nothing

wintry rampart
#

god damnit. i just snapped.

#

it was all cause my internet acted like shit and i snapped. mom got real mad at me, threatening me to cut my education until next year all because i snapped.

#

now, she wouldn't accept my apologies via text.

#

my internet acted like shit as i was about to take a stats quiz. and when i entered the zoom meeting, it was only 10 minutes remaining for the quiz

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and i had no idea what to do

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thank god my professor removed the deadline

midnight crest
#

Once you've calmed down enough talk it out with ur mum cus she might think ur apologies were insincere at the time

wintry rampart
#

when she came home, she scolded me again

#

the calls were enough to distress me because she was yelling.

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and i instantly fired back (not at her), but my isp, by calling them "cunts who do not give a shit about their customers, rather, cunts who give a shit about money, fame and parties" in a facebook comment to its respective page

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and i eventually became a supporter to shut down Globe Telecommunications (one of the most notorious telecom companies in the Philippines)

midnight crest
#

A uni offered me an honours program in environmental management instead of science

wooden elm
#

esp the ones where your success relies on who you know much more than what you know
@unreal oak wait but doesn't contacts help in like every field?

unreal oak
#

@unreal oak wait but doesn't contacts help in like every field?
@wooden elm they do, but to slightly different extents

midnight crest
#

Ppl would rather hire someone they know over a stranger if they have the same qualifications

midnight crest
#

Jesus

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One of the unis suddenly called me

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Heart attack inducing alright

tawdry star
#

Breathe, do you want to tell us what happened?

woven lark
#

whats up? @midnight crest

midnight crest
#

No the uni called me and my headphones rang and gave me a heart attack

woven lark
#

hahahahahhah xD

midnight crest
#

But how do I tell the uni lady I don't plan on going to her uni peepoS

woven lark
#

look maam, youre not good enough

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jk

tawdry star
#

But how do I tell the uni lady I don't plan on going to her uni peepoS
@midnight crest just tell the lady you've got other options and are flattered by their response or sth

midnight crest
#

Okay thanks haha

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Jesus

#

Awkward af call

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I could hear the 👁️ 👄 👁️ in her voice😅 😅

north karma
#

No the uni called me and my headphones rang and gave me a heart attack
@midnight crest poor clay she has no blood left unis keep stealing more from her 😔

midnight crest
#

Man at this point I need a blood transfusion

north karma
#

@cosmic ginkgo Znotes charity event where we donate blood to clay and other people

cosmic ginkgo
#

Why ofc

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Except none y'all kids are legal

hardy halo
#

but how do I tell the uni lady I don't plan on going to her uni peepoS

#

there's a reason to why did I apply to the Netherlands

tropic hound
#

Except none y'all kids are legal
@cosmic ginkgo depends where we're at

hardy halo
#

when you withdraw from their choice, it won't be awkward

haughty ibex
#

Y not

hardy halo
#

Dutch people appreciate you being honest

#

no need to mop around the corners with them

north karma
#

Smh auri taking advantage of dutch peoples kindness

haughty ibex
#

Lol

low egret
#

guys omg my pre mocks are in 11 days and im not ready at all im so anxious send help lol

solid estuary
#

God bless you

pure thunder
#

@low egret ever tried spamming random everyday activities with continuous flash cards?

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always works for me when i start studying late

guys omg my pre mocks are in 11 days and im not ready at all im so anxious send help lol
@low egret 🤷

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(you need to have PHYSICAL flash cards tho, that you can fit in your pocket)

midnight crest
#

Hhhhhhhhhhhhh

#

The uni I wanna apply to

#

Said it'll open applications in sept

#

It's already sept

hardy halo
#

I sometimes do wonder whether is going to the UK for uni a correct decision

#

even though I have zero grudges towards Brits and the entire UK

#

I feel naturally uncomfortable over there

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and in contrast, I feel naturally very comfortable in the NL, far more so than either the UK or my country or birth

#

can I truly stand four years in an environment where I dislike?

wooden elm
#

Oh why do you find yourself uncomfortable there?

north karma
#

Oh why do you find yourself uncomfortable there?
@wooden elm bro you have no idea white people man theyre weird

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Like idk how to explain it

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They just act really white

unreal oak
#

Honestly it isnt as messed up as you think it is

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ofc they have their quirks, but by and large pretty sane

#

the idiots on twitter and insta aren't representative of the whole group

north karma
#

@unreal oak aiyo fam it was a joke the only white people ive found annoying are in eu

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So not counting uk

unreal oak
#

ahh fair fair

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i agree, europeans are weird

amber otter
#

Gonna be travelling solo for the first time to the land of shit weather (uk) tmr fml

hardy halo
#

british weather is in fact, rather nice, as compared to what I've been experiencing

amber otter
#

is it really?

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doesnt it rain all the time r sth

cosmic ginkgo
#

@amber otter eeks where in the UK?

hardy halo
#

it's simply often cloudy

amber otter
#

leicester

hardy halo
#

that's all

amber otter
#

ik not very excciting lol

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it's simply often cloudy
hm okay

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are u in the uk rn? @hardy halo

cosmic ginkgo
#

I've heard the weather is predictably unpredictable

hardy halo
#

@amber otter I went there before

amber otter
#

ohhh okay

#

but ur preparing to go again for undergrad?

hardy halo
#

yes

amber otter
#

aight kewl dude

hardy halo
#

in the NL, the weather's the same gloomy

#

but they have winds that could literally sweep you off your feet

amber otter
#

dang

hardy halo
#

back in Leiden I nearly got blown off

amber otter
#

lol

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never been to that side of the planet b4

#

pretty stoked but scared shitless

unreal oak
#

leicester
@amber otter nice city, just not the best place in covid times

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iirc they still have more restrictions than most of the UK

amber otter
#

Yep ive heard

#

Still in local lockdown or sth

wooden elm
#

They just act really white
@north karma Dunno if i should be offended or not lol

upper atlas
#

guys i am so done with school in general

steep osprey
#

ikr

#

i have IGCSE boards this yr

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in a month

#

and it fucking stressful

uneven burrow
#

guys i am so done with school in general
same bruh

#

i have IGCSE boards this yr
good luck focus and you can do it

steep osprey
#

thx man

upper mauve
#

fuck A levels honestly sooo badd

elder coral
#

i honestly used to say stuff like "im done with school" and shit like that but now that im in my last year of school, im actually sad and scared and dont wanna leave. Ive had a set routine for how many years now. Maybe its different for yall but ive legit went to the same school my whole life. So the transition to a college life is gonna be fuckin tough and im nervous

feral hearth
#

wow when was this channel made

tropic knoll
#

@feral hearth renamed*

feral hearth
#

@feral hearth renamed*
@tropic knoll from what

tropic knoll
#

mental health support

feral hearth
#

I see

#

nice

viral fjord
#

why cany they just cancel oct nov like may june 2020

#

cant*

mild compass
#

i hope not

#

uni applications would close again

#

not good.

north karma
#

Bruh do u want the igcse qualification to lose all its value or something?

lost thicket
#

why is it when i see venting i think of among us

weary slate
#

So is this seriously a channel just to yell your frustrations at the sky?

north karma
#

No you vent your problems and hopefully someone becomes a shoulder for you

#

However the shoulder is missing

celest wedge
#

ik maybe no one is listening but screw it.So basically a few weeks ago cause of the pandemic my school was considering moving to FM for my AS levels but it was a big question.My parents were against it because then i would have to study for that as well as a indian exam that i have to take in jan AND potentially slow down my studying for college.Their argument was "just get it over with".Almost a joke considering my grades.Anyway,Today the decision came and ta da! we're moving to FM.When my mom realized and I was just sitting there trying to absorb it all,she's like "why arent u smiling? didnt u want this" and I just became sad.I go down and tell my grandparents the news and they look like I told them i failed my exams.My grandma started cursing my school and even my classmates for being happy thats it got postponed and I'm just dying now.How can I stay positive about studying and getting more time to do it,seeing my family's reactions? Sorry this was a bit long but I just needed to vent it out ig

tropic hound
#

just ignore em dude, if there's anything ive learned it's that no matter what happens or what you do there's going to be someone that wants you to do better or doesnt like what you're doing, just do your thing and put your effort in, doesn't matter what people think

celest wedge
#

thx man i feel much better now but im still hesitant to even talk to my family rn

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my dad was cool tho so thank god someone's on my side

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but thanks again bro

viral fjord
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Fucking hell

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M so scared

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October November starts in 20 days

uneven burrow
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you can do it

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dont get stressed out

cosmic ginkgo
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You got this bro

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Try to make a plan and keep it structured

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Keep your sanity at the same time, don't study for too long

pulsar sandal
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honestly how are oct/nov exams even going to work out? Like what about lab and all that? it doesnt even make sense anymore

violet lantern
viral fjord
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Any one else doing october november

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Idk how they even thinkin& about conducting it cause like obviously the cases are way more than whn it was in may

violet lantern
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11k tests being conducted per day for a population of 212mil. news is censored to curb panic in the general population. government wants to open schools from 15th sep and get on with life, so they'll be happening here

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they wont hold them in places with strict lockdown where movement is restricted. in short, it depends on the area/country and its rules

static jetty
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i bombed out on my mock exams

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and i'm stressing out so much

viral fjord
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I was suppose to do may june

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My parents said u wil l fa8l if u do may june cau#e my grades were low

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So they forced me into doing oct nov

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And now they regret it

pulsar sandal
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I am doing oct/nov exams.

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but im awfully scared cuz I feel like im outta touch with the syllabus and everything seems so rushed. plus i haven't sat in a lab in the last 7 months so idrk how going to do that at all

tribal sandal
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but im awfully scared cuz I feel like im outta touch with the syllabus and everything seems so rushed. plus i haven't sat in a lab in the last 7 months so idrk how going to do that at all
@pulsar sandal It's a disadvantage to everyone giving the exams this year for sure, but the only thing we can do is make the best of it. I'm terrified too, and my prelims are starting tomorrow, but all I can really say to you is to have confidence in your ability.

viral fjord
tawdry star
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The pandemic isn't over, so imo do not go out

north karma
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Nice lets protests because of covid to make covid worse

opaque mica
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sounds like a nice idea . amirite?

north karma
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I dunno man some of the students in india are desp for this shit

mild compass
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Less gooo

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Masks are for nerds anyways

tribal sparrow
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@drowsy nest hey, you okay? My pm's are open if you need someone to talk to

drowsy nest
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uk wat nvm

viral fjord
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@mild compass was this recent

mild compass
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yeah

viral fjord
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😭

viral fjord
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I got the same mail

haughty ibex
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U doxx ur nam

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@viral fjord

north karma
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@haughty ibex its bad and all but i dont think someone in znotes is gonna leak his address PeepoThink

haughty ibex
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Fair

opaque mica
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What if someone did

viral fjord
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Don't worry i trust u guys

opaque mica
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you arent even a month old here , how are you trusting us

naive skiff
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Don’t want to ruin anything or so but there has been an incident

opaque mica
elder coral
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😳

midnight crest
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I'm thinking of doing a double major just so I can take smt similar to what I want and build a portfolio but I'm not too sure

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The more I think about it the less I wanna go for the degree I chose

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And the delayed applications are kind of fueling the fire

uneven burrow
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geography sucks

frail lance
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whyyyyyyyy

hasty robin
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Igcse sucks at this point am done and am left with 23 days 😫

celest wedge
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ouch hey dont worry

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you having trouble in any specific subject? @hasty robin

hasty robin
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Well yeah I am taking 6 subjects but I struggle with maths physics and ict

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Idk what to do am a private candidate

celest wedge
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ohh ok

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well focus on making your concepts clear by doing a lot of past papers would be my advice

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try to do it as if you're in the exam already and then check your mistakes after

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especially for maths its important to practice concepts and do questions instead of just revising them over and over(which you can get away with in physics sometimes)

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not sure about ICT since i took comp sci but im guessing its a lot of theory so just strengthen your theoretical knowledge ig

hasty robin
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Owk I will try my best and thank u for replying I appreciate it and yes when it comes to past papers that’s my weakness I am good at knowing the stuff but my application is not that good or the way the mark scheme wants

mild compass
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6 subjects bruh

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i have 8

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more hard

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but dont worry corona will save u

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but u need to be good in mock

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ull get predected grades most probably @hasty robin

celest wedge
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Owk I will try my best and thank u for replying I appreciate it and yes when it comes to past papers that’s my weakness I am good at knowing the stuff but my application is not that good or the way the mark scheme wants
@hasty robin i think you just need to see where you went wrong using the MS and try to align by it, you should be good

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more hard
@mild compass you got second lang?

mild compass
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second language yep

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esl

celest wedge
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ahh ok i had french in ig

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i had 8 subs too

mild compass
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nice

hasty robin
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but dont worry corona will save u
@mild compass ummm am a private candidate you’re kidding me right are they gonna cancel the exam am taking it in oct nov after a month basically

mild compass
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i said maybe which is not sure

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most probably they will give predicted grade

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ill give my ig in may/june

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but pre mocks are sooo near

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soo school pressuring students alot

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and by the way one kid got covid in school

hasty robin
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@hasty robin i think you just need to see where you went wrong using the MS and try to align by it, you should be good
@celest wedge owk I’mma try it this way and let uk

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most probably they will give predicted grade
@mild compass hope not cuz I don’t wanna or actually I can’t take it in may June and predicted grades is impossible for me cuz am stuck at home rn self studying

mild compass
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its hard

hasty robin
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Ow wow wait where do u live and the kid who got it

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its hard
@mild compass yep😫 at this point am just winging it

mild compass
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ye my exams got cancelled in may/june as well

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just vibing the exams now

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also private student, no teachers lmao

hasty robin
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So> just vibing the exams now
@mild compass sio ur taking it in may June

mild compass
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no

hasty robin
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When are u taking it then

mild compass
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10 days

hasty robin
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Ufff

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How do u feel

mild compass
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tired?

hasty robin
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What’s your first exam

mild compass
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math

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p1

hasty robin
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It’s ok ur gonna do well

mild compass
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thanks, you too! (whenever ur gonna give it)

hasty robin
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Thanks Tho ngl I hate maths how did u study it

mild compass
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i think its best to say this after results lmao

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but idk just do papers until your soul hurts

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and then try to get those math questions in your dreams

hasty robin
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Realest tip I heard damn😂it’s ok if u did that am sure you will more than pass

mild compass
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results day will tell lmao

hasty robin
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Lol owk well good lucky got this 👍🏽 ow and btw how many past papers do you do a day

mild compass
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2 maybe? which is bad. need to get atleast 4 a day

hasty robin
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It depends tho if ur doing paper 2 or 4 (not sure if it’s the same for you)but if it’s p4 then 2 is enough since it’s 2 hrs and a half

mild compass
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A level bro

elder coral
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@hasty robin my advice on IGCSE math is that you understand the base concepts. Literally every question will have one of these concepts with just a random scenario built around it. Best thing about math is you got little to nothing to memorise. Even formulas, if you understand why the formula is written the way it is, you wont need to memorise it

mild compass
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true

rustic rivet
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math is so hard

elder coral
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Past papers are definitely important, theres an efficient way to solve em tho. If youre already confident with the timing (imo you got way too much time with math so you should be confident with that), you can now just skim through past papers and read through questions, skip the ones you know are easy, when one question catches your eye, solve it, check, continue skimming through, Youll find that you solved like 4 papers in the time it takes to solve one

mild compass
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true

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past papers are mind blowing

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but not that hard

elder coral
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math is so hard
@rustic rivet alotta my friends agree but i personally love math.

mild compass
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nice love maths too kinda lol

rustic rivet
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god i almost died from panic attacks cuz of math

mild compass
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lol

elder coral
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jeez, yeah i get it.

rustic rivet
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cuz i barely understand math its just a bunch of abc123 crap that became so complicated

elder coral
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practice makes perfect, and as i said, you prolly have some basic concepts missing thats why you think its complicated

mild compass
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ohhh love algebra but hate geometry

elder coral
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same thing happened with me in AS math. The stress was unbearable cuz i just couldnt get it

rustic rivet
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ive spent months on end doing math and yet here i am with failing grades for math

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everything else however is a piece of cake

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just math can DIE i hope ❤️

mild compass
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just understand the concept

elder coral
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so yall doin your IGs in october?

mild compass
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In GCSE I took the pass paper only route screwing the 'traditional' method and somehow still managed to pass

rustic rivet
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im not sure i think mine are in june/july

elder coral
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youre....not sure?

rustic rivet
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no-

mild compass
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check ur zone

elder coral
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so you havent registered for anything yet

opaque mica
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when did you start studying for your IGs?

mild compass
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hmmm

elder coral
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alright so youre prolly in may

rustic rivet
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MAY???

elder coral
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ye, its may june

rustic rivet
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i~~~~~

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oh god

elder coral
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the sessions are may-june, and october-november

opaque mica
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may/june , feb/march , oct/nov

elder coral
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has anyone told you about how this works lmao

mild compass
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yep

opaque mica
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these are the ones which exist

elder coral
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are you in school?

mild compass
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true

rustic rivet
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yep

elder coral
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they didnt tell yall about how all this works?

rustic rivet
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nope

mild compass
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u need to understand about ig first

rustic rivet
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all they do is give wack assignments and stress

elder coral
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And what about your friends? theyre doin IGs too?

rustic rivet
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i just started 11th

mild compass
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just ggl it

rustic rivet
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so like

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theres still a bit of time

elder coral
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Thats fine but you need to understand the process

mild compass
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everything things in ggl

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true

rustic rivet
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btw if i just learn the znotes pdfs for igcse would that suffice

elder coral
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Look, ill give you a small summary

mild compass
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kinda

btw if i just learn the znotes pdfs for igcse would that suffice
@rustic rivet

opaque mica
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ZNotes pdfs are for last min studies and revision only

mild compass
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yep

rustic rivet
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so i still have to learn the 300 page textbooks??😢

mild compass
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ur concept should be clear

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so i still have to learn the 300 page textbooks??😢
@rustic rivet yeah give some time

rustic rivet
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okay

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could you guys guide me with what mocks will be like

elder coral
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Youll have your exams in may and june. Thats if you register for them. Youll have to ask at school where you can register for IGCSE exams, ask your friends too. When you register, after a while, youll get something called a statement of entry, which has all your info and your exams. Thats what you use to enter the exams. For studying, youll wanna start by the textbook. Understand everything, ask questions in the channels here, etc. Then you might wanna open past papers and start solving

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You dont have to worry about mocks now, just start studying the actual content

mild compass
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could you guys guide me with what mocks will be like
@rustic rivet listen mock is like basicly they will test u

rustic rivet
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okay about past papers, do i have to do every single year and month past paper i find

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because thats alot of work

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for each subject

elder coral
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And for each subject, you can google its syllabus like "Physics 0625 syllabus" and there youll find everything you need to study from the textbook

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okay about past papers, do i have to do every single year and month past paper i find
@rustic rivet no absolutely not

rustic rivet
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@rustic rivet no absolutely not
@elder coral i have been DYING to hear this im crying

elder coral
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for me, getting the info is much more important than solving as many past papers as you can

rustic rivet
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so i dont have to solve EVERY SINGLE past paper right

mild compass
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@rustic rivet just solve past paper

elder coral
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ive seen people solve YEARS of papers and they still get mediocre marks. I solved like half that amount but was the top of my class so

rustic rivet
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ive seen people solve YEARS of papers and they still get mediocre marks. I solved like half that amount but was the top of my class so
@elder coral beautiful

elder coral
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so i dont have to solve EVERY SINGLE past paper right
@rustic rivet first as i said, study. You cant solve a single paper without studying the content

opaque mica
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Past papers are solely for the purpose of understanding the type of questions

elder coral
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Worry about the papers when you get to it, trust me

mild compass
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hmmm

rustic rivet
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it just feels like i dont have enough time

elder coral
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Past papers are solely for the purpose of understanding the type of questions
@opaque mica this. They wont teach you the content, theyll just show you how youll use the content

rustic rivet
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theres SO MUCH to do

mild compass
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lmao everyone studies gcse in the last 3 months

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when ur paper??

elder coral
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it just feels like i dont have enough time
@rustic rivet youll be fine. I know its cliche but just have goals for each week and aim to finsih them

mild compass
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lmao everyone studies gcse in the last 3 months
@mild compass kinda true

rustic rivet
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if my papers are in may/june and im completing each subject textbook in 2 weeks would that be okay??

elder coral
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lmao everyone studies gcse in the last 3 months
@mild compass i respectfully disagree lmao. I hate cramming for shit

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if my papers are in may/june and im completing each subject textbook in 2 weeks would that be okay??
@rustic rivet thats just impossible

mild compass
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if my papers are in may/june and im completing each subject textbook in 2 weeks would that be okay??
@rustic rivet understand matter

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cramming? a whole month for text book junk and the next 2 for understanding which is enough for gcse

rustic rivet
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@rustic rivet thats just impossible
@elder coral learning the textbook???

elder coral
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eh i dont wanna be this close to the deadline and im still "understanding"

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@elder coral learning the textbook???
@rustic rivet you cant learn the textbook for 6 fuckin subjects in 2 weeks bro

rustic rivet
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@rustic rivet you cant learn the textbook for 6 fuckin subjects in 2 weeks bro
@elder coral no i mean 2 weeks per subject-

elder coral
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still no lmao

mild compass
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thats true

opaque mica
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learning the textbook is a big no no for me . thats directly mugging up

elder coral
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it dpeneds on the subject but honestly that doesnt sound like fun

rustic rivet
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but its simple and easy-

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everything except math that is

elder coral
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And why do you wanna study each subject on its own like that?

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you should be studying them all together

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cuz youll start forgetting the first subject by the time youre at the last one

rustic rivet
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okay interesting point

elder coral
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Anyways i gotta dip but also, you said youre in school. Just see what theyre doing cuz theyll have the plan

rustic rivet
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okay thank you

elder coral
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if they do teach you guys for may june igcse, theyll have the plan to finsih it by then

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and even before it

mild compass
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here's an advice: dont trust the school and teachers. tl;dr do your own research before hand

rustic rivet
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here's an advice: dont trust the school and teachers. tl;dr do your own research before hand
@mild compass OH DEFO YES I KNOW

elder coral
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Yeah but also, you seem like you don't know much about the process so just see what you're schools doing to have an idea

rustic rivet
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okay thank u

hasty robin
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@mild compass OH DEFO YES I KNOW
@rustic rivet this is my advice on how to finish the content so first of all do not use the book trustttt me to understand the concept there is a youtube channel that does that then now that you understand the concepts you gotta do repetition of the important concepts of each topic so that you don’t forget it and for that i will send you the website it covers everything important for 0625 physics now when u finish these start doing your past papers

rustic rivet
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@rustic rivet this is my advice on how to finish the content so first of all do not use the book trustttt me to understand the concept there is a youtube channel that does that then now that you understand the concepts you gotta do repetition of the important concepts of each topic so that you don’t forget it and for that i will send you the website it covers everything important for 0625 physics now when u finish these start doing your past papers
@hasty robin ty kind lady but i dont take 0625 physics 😦 sorry but sure let me know the channel and website!! i'll pass it on to some friends 🙂

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i take Enterprise, D&T, Travel, Business, Statistics for my subject choices

fresh nexus
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you want some advice from me too or you good

rustic rivet
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sure sure

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let me know ❤️

fresh nexus
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whats your question again because im looking up and theres a hundred messages

rustic rivet
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just stress over how much there is to learn and then theres so many past papers too so is it absolutely neccessary to do all the past papers and how reliable would studying from just znotes be andd if i do have my igcses in may/june, if i study 1 subj in 2 weeks is that good enough?

fresh nexus
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how many subjects total

hasty robin
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@hasty robin ty kind lady but i dont take 0625 physics 😦 sorry but sure let me know the channel and website!! i'll pass it on to some friends 🙂
@rustic rivet so for the channel I hate that guy but he’s a lifesaver it’s free science lessons and burrows physics shows exam tips on how to avoid mistakes and stuff like that but u gotta be careful first open your syllabus specification and then use that as to mark the topic you need to cover and search that topic from his videos all my older classmates did this it’s a good way and for the website it’s revisepro am not sure what your board is but u can check them out

rustic rivet
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i have english,math,enterprise,business,travel,D&T,ict, islamic, statistics so that makes 9?

fresh nexus
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this is for mocks right

rustic rivet
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IGCSEs and mocks both is fine i just want help w all this stress

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@rustic rivet so for the channel I hate that guy but he’s a lifesaver it’s free science lessons and burrows physics shows exam tips on how to avoid mistakes and stuff like that but u gotta be careful first open your syllabus specification and then use that as to mark the topic you need to cover and search that topic from his videos all my older classmates did this it’s a good way and for the website it’s revisepro am not sure what your board is but u can check them out
@hasty robin okayy 🙂

fresh nexus
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I think you are overthinking; you need to understand how the style of each exam is and what they place the most emphasis on. For example when I did english literature I made sure I understood the basic key themes, etc. of the extract I was gonna do my exam on so I knew what to write and what annotations to make but for first language I memorised all the annotations because of how important they were. Make your own notes with the super important stuff and write in a way YOU understand; these notes can come from wherever (I used z-notes and the book stuff)

rustic rivet
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i just wanna be stress-free and not feel like if i dont completely bury myself under notes and constantly forget taking breaks and taking care of myself only then will i pass

fresh nexus
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ok make sure you engage in hobbies you like and whenever you feel like you start to slip and make mistakes you stop and have a break

rustic rivet
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yeah i get it!! i make my own notes too but im just stressed because i just look at these fat books and my brain goes "you have to learn each and every single page and then do years and years of past papers 9 times over and over with no breaks"

fresh nexus
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usually igcse was just mostly understanding very key concepts and memorising them; in questions they would change things to make it look scary but it was just the something i had to say from memorisation and elaborate on

rustic rivet
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all subjs are easy to understand except math

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i hope getting a really bad grade in just one subj doesnt matter

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cuz i SUCK at math

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100% suck at math

fresh nexus
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if you have any questions post it to #ig-maths and if you want i can dm and help you revise

rustic rivet
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i cant handle algebra at all

fresh nexus
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other people are also willing to help at maths,

rustic rivet
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thank you 😦 ❤️

fresh nexus
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you dont suck at maths, its just that you need some different explanation

rustic rivet
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yes very simple ones

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because i had alot of problems learning math

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1 was i was naturally bad at math

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2nd was since IGCSE math is like from grade 9-11 portion, my grade 9 was a BAD experience

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because we changed teachers SO many times

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and so i dont think i could understand much

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then i somehow managed to get till here

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idk now

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its all a mess in my head

fresh nexus
#

i went from a 5 to 8

rustic rivet
#

i had a panic attack in the exam hall when giving math test and yeah everything went downhill

fresh nexus
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before my math teacher moved me down a set he said to my parents that im becoming worse and worse and im a bad student that doesnt understand anything about math, when i got an 8 in mocks he suddenly thought i was a god

rustic rivet
#

my school changes teachers alot

fresh nexus
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dont worry about it anytime you need help in math we're all here to help

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yeah me too they change sets like they change underwear

rustic rivet
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so its difficult to adjust to teachers

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ty

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ill currently start first with enterprise then do business then travel because all these subjs are intertwined and have similar info just written from diff perspectives and theyre really easy for me aswell alhamdulillah so im happy about that since i have some grasp SOMEWHERE atleast

fresh nexus
#

also one more thing, if you get really tired of doing a subject and feel like youre starting to burn out start revising for another

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i used to burn out a lot revising economics so i would always switch to computer science then back

rustic rivet
#

by the way, off topic question but do you think you could earn some pocket money by repairing people's computers and stuff yknow?

fresh nexus
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yes just make sure it has some kind of legitimacy

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like if someone tells you to fix their laptop and you say 5 dollars and they're naiive and give it to you but later change their mind it wont be so good

rustic rivet
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i was hoping ill attend an online course just to get the certificate thing so people can atleast trust me

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because thats a good way to start

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yeaaa i get it

fresh nexus
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im sure wherever you are theres lots of apprentice jobs? idk what its called but they'll give you experience and pocket money

rustic rivet
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there arent 😦

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especially since im just 15

fresh nexus
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try researching, usually theres a company or two especially since you're in a school that offers igcse

rustic rivet
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you need to be atleast 16 to even go to volunteering camps

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there is a permit thing that you can get from the ministry to work

fresh nexus
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keep checking and maybe ask the school if they offer programs

rustic rivet
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but theres way too many conditions

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my school is zeromarks

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broke school

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they barely do anything

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send students to the same park for 8 school years for field trips

fresh nexus
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its ok they send me to the same desert every year for international award practice

rustic rivet
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bahahah

fresh nexus
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and my schools not broke

rustic rivet
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oh well