A guy I was super into asked me out three days ago, and last night texted me asking if we could speak on relationship things. I agreed, thinking it was about boundaries or something similar since we just got together and hadn’t set any, but he instead he said that somebody had asked him out in person and that he wanted to know if he could pursue it… i went a little quiet and i told him that was his decision to make. He said he felt like he was letting me down and (quoted from our texts) “LIFE IS TOO HARD FOR ME I HATE MAKING CHOICES”. Another thing he texted was, “And I think it would be messed up to not tell you. Aka I have morals.” He says he wants to be friends with me, but it hurt me a lot. He was a great friend and I hate completely cutting people out, so I don’t know what to do. It hurt me a lot but I feel like since it was such a short time, I should be able to go back to being friends after a while…
#Should I Stay Friends?
rose aspen
glass cradle
Well if he hurted you really badly it’s important to take a break from these things, and it’s ok for you if you think the right thing to do is to cut ties with him, but at the end of the day it’s your choice to do what you think is right. I will tell you it is hard to cut ties with friends, especially with a really good friend, but if you think it’s the best for your friendship/relationship then do it. Just know it will hurt but that’s ok 👍
I hope this helps I’ve been going through my own problems right now so my replies might be a bit harsh or just not as encouraging 
south cape
I totally get the pain too and I agree with t0asty on the taking a break. In my eyes however, the wording feels so insincere and more of him trying to play off the main issue of him making this choice. He chose her instead of you after asking you first which shows commitment issues and honestly seems like a bullet dodged. If you don’t want to cut him off completely atleast establish that what he did was bad and if you don’t think you can be as close are yall were before then tell him and set up new boundaries for your own distance. Your choice is yours at the end of the day though and whatever you do is up to you 💜
rose aspen
For an update, when I took “I’m married” out of my bio, he changed his to “sigh”.
He also texted my friend asking if I was upset and if he shouldve asked in the first place. Me and my friend joined a game so I wouldn’t be as upset and he said “I’d join but it’d be awkward” as if none of it happened. So ultimately I’m choosing to go completely no contact with him until I’m near ready to make the choice against it.