missing out on youth??

[atomic cape]

hi so idk if this context will help but i’m singaporean and yk things are typically a lot more conservative here. but even so… i feel like i’ve missed out on so much in my life. i’m turning 20, i’ve never had a boyfriend or girlfriend (im a bisexual girl), never lost my v card, never even kissed a boy and the only kisses i’ve had are silly goofy ones with my girl friends who im completely platonic with.

ive had so many friends date guys, people are always shocked when i tell them i’ve never dated, my friends tell me about their (naughty stuff) life (i don’t mind im very open minded) but damn there comes a point u just feel like you’ve missed out on so much of your youth you know.

im turning 20 in like a week and starting uni in a few months and i just feel like im going to graduate uni having completely missed my youth romance experience, and i’ve always been a. romantic so i’ve always wanted to be in a good relationship, im not the type to rush into one just because i want to date either, so it kind of makes it even harder to date??

anyone has any thoughts

[knotty needle]

im a bit surprised no one has replied to this ! hello, im moroccan & i completely understand what u mean by things are conservative.
first of all, youre not missing out on your "youth". first (romantic) kisses, first times, first boyfriends/girlfriends come at different times for everyone and theyre not only something for "young people" to do or try for the first time. and youre still young!! dont feel ashamed or sad because you think its abnormal, because its most definitely not!! take your time, and when you feel ready for one, put yourself out there; like go to bars, get on dating apps, or just go out more in hopes of randomly finding someone that peaks your interest and talk to them.
now, you also said youre a romantic and want to get into a rs but youre also not the type to rush into things. thats not a bad thing. first relationships are usually always a bit of a mess tbf, id say its almost better for you to be almost 20, have matured a bit and just now start getting into relationships. wether u havent been in one because you havent been asked out much or because your rejected people, ill tell you that you can take your time. heck even get to 50 if you want and dont get into a rs if you dont find the ideal person youd want to be with! also id recommend learning to not yearn for a rs and be happy with yourself before even trying, if thats something youre struggling with.
hope this helpss in any way 😭

[atomic cape]

@knotty needle thank u sm for replying! ironically im actually very forward when it comes to crushes i usually alw confess ig the stars have just never aligned for me 😥 hoping uni will be different :’-) but thank u so much for ur assurance i appreciate it sm ❤️

[knotty needle]

youre so strong for being the one to confess thats so awesome

im sure uni will be better ! just put yourself out there and itll happen sooner or later

cause unfortunately the "love comes when u least expect it" shit is actually so true a lot of the time