having a lot of trouble adding Matter over Thread devices to my HA green with ZBT-2 as border router. i got the green just yesterday. i didn't do anything weird like SSHing into it or installing custom add-ons, limited myself to following the steps in the official documentation.
it seemed like everything was going well, but then i tried to add the first thread device (a Nuki Ultra Smart Lock) via the HA Android app, and it was failing at the last step with Android saying something about verifying my wifi network. i played with many settings in my unifi gateway (UDM SE), including enabling/disabling mDNS repeater, IGMP snooping, ipv6 stuff, etc, and connected to the same network the HA green is on with my phone, but no luck.
i was getting some errors in the OTBR logs that i remember reading in some HA threads that they could be about the radio or something. unfortunately i decided to retry (flash the ZBT-2 again) and the new logs are different, so i don't remember exactly what they were. but i did get logs when trying to add a device, as opposed to now where it seems like it just fails in the first place before devices are added.
so i decided to do a complete factory reset, set up a clean, simple and permissive VLAN, and try from scratch. unfortunately i keep getting the same logs, with very minor differences - these messages about "failed to process request#X: No such process", "Daemon read: Connection reset by peer", "Failed to perform next registration: NotFound", etc. i really don't know what's going on.
versions of everything are latest as of today jan 27 2026. here are steps and logs from the start (see thread)