love at first sigh, Real or Fake?

[trail scaffold]

Guys do you think love at first sight real? Yez or Nou

[echo valley]

Yes its real

[buoyant bison]

U just horny bro

[frozen apex]

and whats wrong with that lol

yez it is

[simple basin]

Bro's got a point, but usually it's the ones that end up being very close friends.

[dense spruce]

Hornyness and the craving for love is not the same thing, I don't think she meant it in a sexual way

[dense spruce]

And as of the question itself I think the initial attraction is the closest thing to love at first sight, if your definition of love is someone you can connect with on an emotional level, then love at first sight probably isn't real, since a connection like that needs time to develop

[thin warren]

Nope, it’s lust not love at first sight

[dense spruce]

My guy, you really can't tell the difference between lust and the craving to be loved by someone? They are 2 completely different things, one is a sexual desire, the other is a romantic one, if you can't tell a difference between them your conception of love is really messed up

[thin warren]

I mean for “love” that comes from being around a person for a bit. You don’t get those feelings from just seeing a person once

It’s very gradual

[dense spruce]

I agree, but I wouldn't call that lust, lust is purely sexual. Love at first sight probably isn't real in a sexual nor romantic sense. But to define love at first sight as a purely 100% sexual feeling is where you lose me. There is a lot more to ''love at first sight'' than just physical attractiveness

[thin warren]

The thing is you haven’t really talked with the person and it’s mainly looks you’re going off of, therefore someone can’t fall in love at first sight

You can be attracted to someone but it’s not love

Although tbh I think people in general with romance tend to get a lot of things wrong about it and fall in love with the idea of it rather than what it actually entails and is

Of course people can feel free to disagree with what I have to say but one can just look at statistics and see how the story tends to unfold

[dense spruce]

You do have a point, but I think if you find someone attractive that doesn't just incline ''oooh this person is attractive so I wanna have sex with them''. Finding someone physically attractive can also give you the feeling of ''oooh this person is attractive so I want to be in a relationship with them and become emotionally intimate''

of course emotional intimacy and physical intimacy are two completely seperate things

but I think the increase in physical intimacy can lead to an increase in emotional intimacy

(the desire of said intimacy that is)

[thin warren]

Like people will have the honeymoon phase and then right after break up not realizing that long term is where it’s at, but a lot of it can be tied to instant gratification and dating apps allowing too many options

Creates limitless choices where people don’t want to settle then are left with nothing

Love is a complicated thing to handle and I personally believe most lack the maturity to understand what it is on deeper level

Requires self awareness that most people simply don’t have

[dense spruce]

Yea I definitely agree with that, dating apps has ''gamified dating'' too much, which has made it lose a lot of the emotional aspect since you're going of off just ''physical attractiveness first impressions''

[thin warren]

Yeah, and I mean that whole realization is a very bitter pill to swallow, but it does help long term keep your happiness and sanity

[dense spruce]

yea and the brain rot of gen A and Z doesn't really ''help''

[dense spruce]

Yea and I think that's also one of the main reasons behind the loneliness crisis, none of us are able to get that deeper level of connection that we all crave

[thin warren]

I say this as well cause I’ve been fortunate or unfortunate enough to get dragged along with friends and be around freakishly attractive girls/ women and once you see what happens and ignore their looks it loses its appeal

And I’m talking like ones that go out to NYC/ LA to work at modeling agencies where you gotta double track to make sure they’re real

It’s sort of like supercars where you think a Ferrari is cool until you deal with the maintenance and worrying constantly about stuff happening that you just say forget it and decide to settle for something/ someone modest

[dense spruce]

Yeah I feel the same way. Even if I were to use a dating app and find someone that I enjoy being with. We will would both probably have that feeling that, something is missing from the relationship since we met on a dating app.

[dense spruce]

That's just my speculation tho

[thin warren]

But I think these experiences are important since they teach people lessons and allow one to reflect on what they really want out of life

[thin warren]

You can get genuine connections, they’re just rare

[dense spruce]

Yeah I suppose it is possible. I just find the idea of finding a genuine connection from an algorythm very unappealing

[dense spruce]

Yeah most people don't seem to understand that to gain that deeper level of appreciation and love for someone you have to be there for them during their toughest times, even if it hurts you too. Most people just give up and leave when things don't turn like the ''perfect'' relationship that they expected

[frozen apex]

yea ig this convo was a lot longer then i thought it would be lol

some great advice

thx guys

[dense spruce]

Lmao must've gotten carried away haha

[frozen apex]

no ur good

i loved reading it

[frozen apex]

so then do u guys think that being horny over one person is wrong if i dont follow up oni it? like i dont rly know what to do about things like that

[fervent sluice]

it’s real

[trail scaffold]

:)) zamnn i left this forum for like years

well,

i did a bit of research

yk some ppl may mistake the feelings

there is like hormones that make ur heart beat like faster

wait

i was tryna make a school essay about it, soo below this chat is my opinion

You know, feelings are kinda complicated right?

Some people may mistake them as love

or what u said is true, some people may mistook it as lust

some ppl definition of love is diffrent

but for sure i think love and lust is diffrent

Oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin are often referred to as our “happy hormones.” When you're attracted to another person, your brain releases dopamine, your serotonin levels increase, and oxytocin is produced. This causes you to feel a surge of positive emotion.

from google

so ppl often mistook if as love?

but oh gohs my essay it long

but in the conclusion that i got is,

i think love at first sight is kinda not real

maybe ppl believe in gut feeling

but i think love is build overtime

you may feel attracted, but i think love (in my mind, its more like caring about the person and want to spend your life with them) it needed to be built over trust and of course face challenges and full of understanding

not just suddenly u meet random ppl and like

bro i love u

maybe its more like

bro i love ur eyes

or anythin

andd

@dense spruce and @thin warren i really enjoy reading ur convo over there xD

Thanks guys

thanks for others too

i need ppl's perspective about the topic

[buoyant bison]

Don’t just have sex with anyone

That’s the biggest point to draw from this

[trail scaffold]

well i mean, thats common sense isnt it?

[meager flame]

Yes

[thin warren]

Yeah

[bright robin]

this devolved into a delusional argument really quickly huh

[frozen apex]

kinda

[pseudo dawn]

real ong

[night raft]

@trail scaffold I agree with the arguments you have made. Love does not occur only from one sighting, it occurs from the building of two peoples character as they try to merge their lives together from where they form a bond. Love cannot be explained as something that just happens, when you meet that "the one" because you do not even know who that person would be. A way to find out who you could consider them to be "the one" is if there is a mutual relationship between you both. If love was so simple to just have that feeling once you meet someone for the first time, how is that really love? Would it not be considered to be conscious feeling or a mental state? Or a physical attraction to their looks, rather than their ideas or true being (as in their personality)? (PS. This is my take on the matter as a philosophy student, may be a horrible one but these are where my beliefs stand).

[bright robin]

I CAN AGREE

[night raft]

I am thankful for your insight! :)

[stiff sequoia]

not real

[bright robin]

I agree.

[stiff sequoia]

why?

[bright robin]

I'll explain later.