Let yourself have a little ego, confidence in your skill and pride when you do well is just as important as being able to see your mistakes and learn from losses
#How to congratulate yourself without being egotistical?
tall isle
primal idol
Reminder as you read through advice, different things work for different people
One way is to be proud of your achievement cause you got better, but then remind yourself that you're still trash in comparison to the pros and there's still a ways to go
Another way is to remind yourself that your opponent was trash. So even though you did good to beat them, it's not really anything to boast about
Good way that works for some is reminding yourself of the struggle and work you put in to achieve the goal. Doesn't feel like you're a god when you think about how many long hours it took to do something, just makes you feel good about having the work ethic and dedication to put in those hours
rapid ruin
there's a big difference between "i did good" and "im the best"
its not difficult to pat yourself on the back while staying humble.
true cairn
in my job, we train new people to be more confident. And I can say, if your default is to be ciritical of yourself, praising yourself once or twice won't make you cocky at all. It's a long way from being critical to being cocky. praise yourself when you did good. praise your opponent when he did good. that way, you keep perspective
uneven cargo
"That was a sick combo I finally pulled off"
"That a good decision I made to clutch it out, I can do more of that"
true cairn
yeah, I think this difference is worth putting a lot of emphasize on:
praise yourself for things you DO or DID
but don't praise yourself for things your ARE
the same is true for praising others
if you praise somebody for doing something, they are now inclined to do more of that
if you praise somebody for what they are, they now got an image to protect.
e.g.: I liked how you solved X, that was a clever solution. Well done.
vs.: The solution to X shows how clever you are.
If somebody thinks he is clever, he will avoid "unclever" things or seeming unclever. This stiffles growth and can lead to defensive behaviour.
There are studies of this on children. Im not aware of studies on this topic with adults, but Im not from the field, I just read things about it.
broken snow
I don't think about wins or losses, I just focus on the current round and how to adjust or where I should test for interrupts. The fact of the matter is I am going to lose a lot, but I try to learn where to punish
after a while you just learn, like for me, I discovered a pattern that shotos love to use, usually the third hit in their block strings will be a c.mk and with the right timing I can light buffer into a full combo