Create an option where the pausing is the same as online: players pause and access the pause menu when the ball’s out or play’s paused. And another option for both players to exit at once to make sure that both are done. Apply it to kick off and couch play as an option, not as the main fix. Maybe store it in the account’s information because if one account has that, each game must be played that way.
Another thing is to create an unpause feature, where the pause is canceled, but the opponent doesn’t see it, so doesn’t get bothered by the opponent potentially pausing and unpausing it as a means of distraction. Some people don’t want to waste their pauses.
For camera effects, create an option of hiding the UI so players can see the changes quicker instead of spamming the back button and being unpleased having trying to fix it.
An alternative for spamming the back button to the match is to create press and hold the back button for 2-3 seconds instead of spamming. Maybe spamming is faster, but making it a second or “R1+L1” is faster as it’s the universal combo of skipping.
For online play in FUT or seasons, note to the other player if the opponent is waiting for the game to continue. For clubs, just say how many are waiting, without usernames. Another thing is to let the other player come back to the pause menu if the other player has not left, instead of wasting another pause.
Another big solution is to create extended pause, where players can use all of their pauses at once or a couple. Some players have something that needs fixed in 90 seconds or changing a tactic. Or create a penalty, where 80 seconds equal to 3 pauses, or 120 equals to 4. Just be considerate and open to the possibility.