I have been aroace my whole life but found out I am aroace a couple years back. And recently I've met some former friends of my mine who claim to be an ally yet are aphobic to me online, yet when we get back in classes we are yelling german at eachother like nothing happened. I want to address this to my family some how, find out if they are aphobic yet claim to be allys, and find out how to come out. They accept me for not wanting kids, a wife, gf, husband, or bf and I would be the same, but something tells me not to come out. Can anyone help?
#Coming out as Aroace
viscid pier
lethal venture
Hi, i totally understand what you think.
There is no problem to be asexuel and aromantic, logically thats good for get a relationship with friends for a long time. But your friends are aphobic on you, why they do this on his friend ? There are not a good friend and if they continue they will lock you and you will hurt (omg my english is so weak) I think you need to stop talking with people like they, it’s you and only you to choose your way, never let someone choose at your place.
For your family, i don’t know who type of people they are so i can't help you that much but :
If you know they accept LGBT people and respect they, you can talk to hem.
You can go to a psyco, and speak to them, this is very helpful. With a psy you can say or not what you tolking about with him, but basically this is secret between you and him.
If your family do not like gay, trans, etc. I really advise you to not talking them.
Just, be always careful because all word you can say can change your life, your friends and maybe your family (idk who there are).
Just if you need support, we are here and this is the misson of the server i think 
@viscid pier
Sorry for my english i hope for your understanding and have a nice day (10AM in France)
viscid pier
Ok update time, I am now (as of what my knowlage consists of) a demiboy. I want to get out of the second closet and adress my gender dysphoria but idk if they would really like that