coming out to my mom

[knotty steppe]

i feel like on pride month is the month i should come out to (like basically everyone) my mom. I do not know if she supports or doesn't. Once i got in trouble bc of a problem related to pride, but its just because i was making my (ex) friend uncomfortable with the mentions of it. Ive also heard my mom say "omg gender is whats in ur pants u cant be neither" so... I guess shes neutral but leaning towards not a supporter? I am just asking for tips here, plz.

[frank pebble]

You probably should not come out to her if she is talking about "your gender is whats in your pants" also ask her if she supports it tho

[fading jacinth]

what ralsei said. she is at least transphobic, probably queerphobic. I wouldn't recommend coming out to her.

[knotty steppe]

Shes like said random things like "is snoopy gay?" Just like questioning random characters. Shes def transphobic, but idk.

[digital beacon]

Try asking questions about pride stuff to her and see her reaction, or like when she asks if a character is gay or something say 'yeah, so?' and see what she answers

[paper thicket]

I might actually wait until pride month to come out to more people now you say this

[knotty steppe]

I don't know... All that my mother knows is i know abt the community but she thinks i dont even know what gay and stuff means

[frank pebble]

Shes already transphobic and asking if random characters are queer so its not a good idea to come out to her

[knotty steppe]

I dont know, i dont just wanna live without her knowing. Im prob just overthinking (which i normally do) but i dont know

[frank pebble]

I think that she is probably not going to accept u because she is transphobic and asking if random characters are queer and I wouldn't take the risk

[knotty steppe]

Okay, i'll update if she starts mentioning pride more and seems a bit more like an ally. Very unlikely but i can only hope!

[frank pebble]

Good luck on your observations

[knotty steppe]

so i have a few updates, she doesn't seem to mind displays of queer relationships. This may not be that relevant but it may help

[digital beacon]

Okay yeah that's promising
Have you tried asking her (in any way you can bring it up) what her opinions are on like queer rights and such
Usually that's the best indication