My coming out story

[astral slate]

I came out as pam in the worst way possible. My homophobic mother searched the wifi router and found both straight and gay err... Videos. I was 14, I'm about to turn 20 and I still hear about it

*pan fucking typo

[steady vault]

Besides the hearing about it are your parents being toxic in any other way? If you're independent or able to be you can always move or cut contact

[astral slate]

I already did move out

[steady vault]

Yeah I did figure you probably did, and if they're still being general asses you can always just not talk to them anymore (though i understand it might create drama between the family and stuff).
If you've tried to tell them to stop and they won't then options are limited to no contact or ignoring it

[astral slate]

Unfortunately I do still have to have contact with my mom. A lot of my stuff is still in her storage, but as soon as I get all that I'm limiting it as much as possible. I would cut it completely, but I really like my stepdad. And I'm not going to be able to cut contact with my mom and not him

[steady vault]

Ah, yeah that makes sense, i don't think I can do or say much more as an internet stranger besides good luck, so I'll say just that, good luck, and i hope your mother stops being an ass bout you being pan

[astral slate]

You should have seen how she reacted when she caught me going by Jessie in school

Thanks for your wishes of luck though

[steady vault]

Well from what I can tell it definitely wasn't pleasant was it

It's good that you're away

[astral slate]

She forbid me from using that name. And actually wound up getting on to me occasionally when I talked about the Disney show Jessie because she thought I was referring to myself.

But I do have a funny story about my mom and her transphobia. It was a task failed successfully. I'm schizophrenic, I hear voices. Well she wanted to joke about that once, I was fine with the joke. So she goes "yeah he's right here, or should I say they're right here cuz they're multiple people in there." And I look at her confused and I go "huh?" And she apologizes and says Oh did I offend you I'm sorry and I'm like no I didn't hear you and she repeats her joke and I laugh and in my head I'm just like task failed successfully bitch

[steady vault]

Lol i love that
It's actually genuinely something I used to do back in the day if i had trouble using they/them for people, I'd just think of them as multiple people (or raccoons in a trench coat, a devil and angel on the person's shoulders etc) or some omnipotent being, and that would help.

[astral slate]

Lol

[mellow totem]

OMG WAIT I NEED TO STEAL THAT, I need to start telling people to just imagine me as 3 gremlins in a trench coat to remember they/them.

[steady vault]

Well if it works then go ahead! I'd love if someone told me to think of them as gremlins in a trench coat

[halcyon geode]

The only way to explane what i went through to come out as pansexual is that one war meme