#Need help asap

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mint relic
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so there's this boy i really like and five never seen him date girls but he doesn't seem gay. Here's where it gets bad. He asked me out and i haven't said yes yet because his parents are MAGA. Here's another problem we have the same name. Here's the last problem, i was in a super abusive relationship i was beat gaslit and emotionally manipulated but i stayed with him for 2 years because i thought he would get better ( he didn't) he moved away and I'm still trying to heal but i don't want him to think i don't like him but i REALLY do. Plz give advice.

grave lodge
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im no expert on this, but maybe (if you’re comfortable) tell him about this former relationship and maybe he could help you. at the same time, he may get to know you better and potentially agree to going out with you(?) i know its a HUGE STRETCH but it’s the best i can think of. sorry!!! 😓

twilit bane
# mint relic so there's this boy i really like and five never seen him date girls but he does...

for the problems that you listed:

  1. his parents are maga, yes, but could you try to hide it for now if you got with him? I don't know how old y'all are.
  2. I don't really see the problem with having the same name (especially compared to the other problems listed), maybe it'll get confusing at times, but that's what nicknames are for!
  3. first, I'm so, so, very sorry you went through that for that long. I couldn't imagine how much damage that could've done to you. but, I think you should tell this guy that you like him, but you're not sure if you're ready for a relationship. you could say if you want that you have been through some things in the past and you're still healing, but maybe you want to be friends with him for now?

I hope I helped, I wish you the best of luck 🤞

worn verge
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Yeah like Ollie said, saying you like him, but you’re not ready for a relationship yet, and you don’t have to explain why if you don’t want to, though you can if you’re ready to.

mint relic
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thanks i told him everything thing (well cried while telling him) and he held me through it and told me we can go slow and wait if needed. Guys thank you so much i was so scared but it worked out in the end.