#I’m here for you!

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split fern
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I know I’m a stranger but I hope at least one person will feel safe enough that if he need anything they’ll give me a message. All of you are valid, all of your feelings are valid, and I’m proud of all of the people who know they need help, recognize it, and come into this channel to let out their feelings or ask for help. I wish you all the very best and know that you aren’t alone

I’m one message away, I hope anyone reading this who needs a friend and a support reaches out 🫂

frozen owl
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I know I'm 2 hours late but I could use some help.

split fern
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split fern
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I’m not trans or nb myself but I know dysphoria is really upsetting and just know that im here to talk now and I hope in some way I can help

frozen owl
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It's so bad. I'll never get to be one of the women in my country. I can't do what they do because I'm a "boy". Seriously. Once they stopped me from buying a pink suitcase. I can't even buy a peach colored keyboard because my parents say it's girly.

split fern
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Do you have any plans of going somewhere else?

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Just curious. Idk if you do or if it’d help you in any way

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And also I know that those plans could be pretty far away too

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frozen owl
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frozen owl
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I keep getting so many transphobic posts.

split fern
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On what if I may ask?

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Honestly I see those kinds of posts on all kinds of social media and they disgust me

frozen owl
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Everywhere.

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My country is transphobic.

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So I can't celebrate women's month or day

split fern
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All phobic if I’m being completely honest, but still

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frozen owl
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split fern
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Ah okay, I’m sorry I didn’t know that

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My connection is awful atm I apologize

split fern
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All people deserve to be treated well and I’m sorry you aren’t. You deserve much better, and I sincerely hope you will get it someday

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I wish there was more I could do for people even outside of my country, I’ve attended protests for stuff like that in my area but sadly I can’t help others outside of it

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Anyways, I want you to know it’ll get better. I know it will, I so wish there was more I could do for you

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If there’s any way I can support you other than this let me know, I’m still here to talk rn I’m not saying I’m done I’m just asking if there’s anything I can do for you

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If you can’t think of anything that’s fine. Just know that I support you and I’m sure there’s many many others in the world who would too

frozen owl
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I can't even express myself here. My dad straight up calls me "boy" every time he calls me and I hate it. Every time I hear it I feel my heart sink

split fern
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You won’t be around him forever thankfully

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I know that doesn’t help right now but it’s the truth

frozen owl
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That is if I don't lose enough sanity that I unalive myself in time.

split fern
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I’ve survived twice and I know that there’s still life worth living even if you don’t think so at the moment

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Ideally you wouldn’t have to survive anything, I know that you’ve heard it before but death isn’t the solution to the suffering you have in life

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If you died, you wouldn’t ever have the opportunity to see a world that’s better, you’d just be dead, period.

frozen owl
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I still have years to go to emigrate.

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frozen owl
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And I can't even handle daily life anymore.

split fern
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When I was 15 I didn’t think I’d ever make it to 16, but I’ve made it past that and I’m older now, I never thought I’d make it here but I’m here and I’ve seen life as it is

frozen owl
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One time I was in the mall, I was in the women's section. I got so dizzy there.

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If it wasn't for thanatophobia I would've never made it to 2026.

split fern
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But you made it, and I’m glad you did because now you’re able to ask for help

split fern
# frozen owl If it wasn't for thanatophobia I would've never made it to 2026.

I have a really intense fear of my death too, every now and then I’ll have these moments where I think to my future and I fear my mortality.

I say that not to make it about me, but to tell you that just because it’s inevitable doesn’t mean it’s negative. You have a lot of life ahead of you and I believe in you to make it, even if you have a hard time believing in yourself

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But yes, I am glad you’ve made it this far even if I don’t quite know you

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I’m proud of anyone who survives their hardships

frozen owl
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I get so dysphoric seeing women's month posters and ads everywhere because I know I cannot be part of it. I cannot celebrate Women's Month or Women's Day.

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As much as I wish I could, I cannot.

split fern
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Well, how would you like to celebrate it?

frozen owl
split fern
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Would you just like to hang out with someone? Idk, go out and do stuff? How?

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Just seeing if there’s some way I could help you feel more like you, if it’s some way I can help you celebrate I’d gladly do so

frozen owl
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I'm a boy IRL, no way I'm gonna celebrate now

split fern
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You don’t HAVE to do anything irl. If it’d just help you to have someone be supportive of your identity, I’ll be genuinely supportive

frozen owl
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And I can't even use perfume.

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My parents don't even allow me to use one.

split fern
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Well quite frankly your parents are, at best, terrible at being parents

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Because as I’m sure anyone knows, a good parent is supportive of their children.

But even if they aren’t you can at least try to be supportive of yourself

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I don’t quite know how yet but I’m sure we could figure some way out

frozen owl
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They literally stopped me from buying a pink suitcase and even threatened to bring mall security in because I kept begging. I wish I was joking.

split fern
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Now please don’t be offended when I say this,

But it isn’t helping yourself to constantly think about the negative things that’ve happened

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I know how hard it is to think about positives because I also struggle with it

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Have you had any positive experiences at all lately?

frozen owl
split fern
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split fern
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Sorry

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I mean like “What do you mean the guitar?”

frozen owl
split fern
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Oh yeah okay

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Sorry I’m slow sometimes

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That’s at least one positive in your life though

frozen owl
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Yeah but well...

split fern
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Well what?

frozen owl
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Gosh, I wanna be a woman so bad IRL. But only online. I had so much potential but that all went to waste.

split fern
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Why do you think it’s wasted?

frozen owl
split fern
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I know it affects your life a lot, but your gender isn’t everything about you. You are still an individual with a personality beyond just that

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You like flowers? What kind?

frozen owl
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But I like most of them, especially pink ones.

split fern
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That’s adorable, I love pink as well

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I wish there were more purple flowers tbh, I love purple

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See? Thats a part of you, that’s some of your personality. Thats beyond gender, that’s just what you like and are

frozen owl
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lavender is my favorite purple flower.

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I know an artist that's responsible for that

split fern
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So yeah I think I was just born to like purple 😂

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frozen owl
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Crap that's a hyacinth

frozen owl
split fern
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frozen owl
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Dang.

split fern
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I didn’t know that lol, I’ve always been told it was lavender 😂

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split fern
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I don’t listen to much Taylor Swift so I didn’t know that, sorry 😭

frozen owl
split fern
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Yeah I do

frozen owl
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Can't do much to celebrate Women's Month though.

split fern
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I don’t think even many cis women celebrate it if I’m being honest, it’s more just a general thing to recognize women’s achievements and such

frozen owl
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split fern
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Who says you have to celebrate traditionally? Is it not enough to do what it was made to do?

You can always do like i said, celebrate women’s achievements. That includes YOUR achievements, because you’re a woman

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Even if your country doesn’t recognize it that doesn’t mean you or I can’t

frozen owl
split fern
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Well let me be the one to tell you that you aren’t pretending

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If you get dysphoria over that then that’s just more proof that you ARENT

frozen owl
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And my AGAB gets treated like shit every day

split fern
frozen owl
split fern
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I’ve only ever seen it as AFAB/AMAB and didn’t realize there was AGAB too

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frozen owl
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frozen owl
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Literally the unwanted gender

split fern
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Again, undeservedly. I don’t think the actions of certain people of a gender should be then generalized to all of the same gender

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But it still happens and for that I’m sorry, you don’t deserve it, especially not when you literally didn’t want it in the first place

frozen owl
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My AGAB gets death wished upon it all the time.

split fern
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I wish there was more I could say regarding that, but I am

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I mean as a cis male I’ve been stereotyped before but I don’t think I’ve ever gotten threats over it, I’m sorry about that

frozen owl
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This is what I'm talking about

split fern
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Quite frankly feminists who say that kinda garbage aren’t feminists at all, the entire point of feminism is to gain equality, not reverse the inequality unto men

frozen owl
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Yeah it's gone full circle.

split fern
# frozen owl Yeah it's gone full circle.

Well just know that not every feminist is like that, that’s a very small percentage that just so happens to be the most annoying and loud-mouthed regarding their opinion

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Do you engage at all with those videos? Even if you stay on the video for more than one loop it’ll put a stain on your algorithm

frozen owl
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Girls in my class used to hit the boys all the time and the boys can't fight back

split fern
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That’s probably why you see so many of them, it’s a feedback loop in the echo chamber of the internet

split fern
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They’re doing the complete opposite of what they want to do, they’re just making other women look bad by acting in such an idiotic and hateful way

frozen owl
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One cried after a girl hooked punched him several times and even threw a book at him

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But then if the boys do it it instantly gets reported

split fern
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Yes, unfortunately that’s just how it is sometimes

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The entire concept of equality has been skewed into people thinking giving women more leeway is gonna make the problem better when it reality it just makes the power imbalance worse

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It’s the same vice versa

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I’m sorry you see that kinda stuff. It’s not the opinion of every woman, it’s the opinion of the loudest

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Same with the opposite for men. Not every man is a misogynist, it’s just the loud few

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It’s the idiots who rant on the internet about how bad the opposite sex is when in reality we all are different individuals and not to be judged based on our gender

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Sorry if that wasn’t helpful of a topic

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I might have to go soon. I’m sorry if I wasn’t able to help you as much as you need, I’ll be here later or tomorrow if you need me 🫂

frozen owl
split fern
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What’s goin on?

split fern
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No no it’s okay !

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That’s the entire point of this, make it about you all you want

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I’m sorry, I don’t understand ya :(

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It’s okay, don’t worry

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Whatcha mean?

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I don’t think I can rn and I’m sorry

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I know it’s help I just simply can’t 😭

I wouldn’t know how to help because a lot of my skill comes from thinking before I speak, and that’s harder to do in VC

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I get that and I wish I knew how to help through vc

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I’m just awkward outside of messages and not usually comfortable with voice, but I’m still glad to try to help best I can here

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Also I’m sorry that happened, I know that it’s hard to try to come out after that and I’m here for you

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I know that’s kind of a generic response but it’s true, I’m here for ya

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I don’t think you can “look” gay to be honest

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I mean the typical “gay” is a stereotype on gay men

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lol I was confused about that

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What did you mean to say?

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No
It’s okay I’m reading dw

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That’s fine dw. I understood most of it

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What a lot of folk don’t realize is that you don’t have to come out to everyone

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I mean especially if you’re not gay or trans or have no dysphoria about being mislabeled

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Cause if it doesn’t harm you for them not to know, there’s no reason to tell em right?

split fern
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I meant non-binary or trans

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As long as you’re comfortable with who you know and who is allowed to know that’s fine

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I understand

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I have pretty severe trust issues, stems from trauma for me

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But they don’t have to control your life , there’s ways to get past them

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lol fair

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lol I’ve always liked the “rebuilding the wasteland” factions in stuff like that

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The NCR in fallout for example

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I’m trying to think of another one

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SCP reference?

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Uhm maybe we will see lol

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I’m alright for now I think but thank ya :)

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I’m free a lot of the time, I’d love to chat with you

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You’re welcome!!!

split fern
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I hope that helps too

split fern
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What’s goin on?

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Sure thing

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Like, what exactly?

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Yeah I have the same issue as a matter of fact 😅

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Is it going out to meet people that’s difficult?

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Hm?

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I’m pan but I mean I have/would date a guy, why?

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Oh I see what you’re implying

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I don’t mean to be rude but I just don’t really know ya 😅

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I don’t really know how I feel about that and I’m sorry for that

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I’m kind of half-dating someone atm anyways and I’d rather just not maw that situation MORE odd

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BUT I am still wiling to give you some advice on like whatever else you need dating wise lol

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Yeah people are jerks

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Understatement of the century

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It doesn’t sound “weird”

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Just dont like, actively do that lol

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It’s against rules and would prob get you banned tbh cause I’ve seen people banned for similar

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I was in this server for ages before but left cause I needed a break from the internet for context

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lol I’d love to spend twenty years in a forest

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Alas 😔

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Yeh it’s the same in Kentucky

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Except with actual forested area

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I think last time I read, Kentucky is like 44% forest or something crazy

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One of the more forested states actually

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48% actually

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What about Maine?

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Oh most forested

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Yeah they’re like 90% I think right?

split fern
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Damn

split fern
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Howdy!

frozen owl
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Hai hai

split fern
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Hey sorry but I’m about to go to bed I think :(

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Good night tho!