i cant shave, my body hair always gives me dysphoria, when i feel fem,it makes me feel not fem, when i feel masc it makes me feel disgusting, my gender issues go so far and mix with everything, ive nearly attemped s word because of them, i need some gender affirming care, it could literally save my life, someone help me please
#feeling disgusting as fuck
brisk fulcrum
earnest halo
What type of care?
There are various types of care. It might be social care (if simplify - tools so that you're treated as a person of gender you are, not sex you are) or body modifications (be they reversible or irreversible).
What do you need specifically? Are you discomfortable with your body or how you're perceived by others?
brisk fulcrum
i hate it
everyone makes me feel uncomfortable, yet non of them even my "friends" make an effort to correctly percieve me, most of them mocking me and being borderline homophobes
earnest halo
What. I don't think it's that much of a deal to use correct pronouns and terms for a person...
Why would they do it? Did you try to say them that it makes you uncomfortable?
If you tried... I don't know what to do then. Sorry, I just never dealed with that kind of people. If they're making you feel too horrible, then they're not even your friends anyways. Friends are supposed to be comfortable around.
brisk fulcrum
even if i tried, theyd default to saying im gay, call me an fword or say i like femboys
they think homosexuality is a funny topic. it makes my blood boil.
earnest halo
they think homosexuality is a funny topic. it makes my blood boil.
Their mindset is cooked, and you can do nothing about it...
It sounds horrible.
Well, do they think that racism is a funny topic too?
earnest halo
the other one frequently spams the nword
Is black one comfortable with it?
brisk fulcrum
but i mean, our native tongue isnt english, so everyone spams the nwords and insults jewish people freely, since it can be taken as a joke
earnest halo
but i mean, our native tongue isnt english, so everyone spams the nwords and ins...
Language, not tongue...
Can relate on this part. I once was in a whole Wild West of a friendgroup.
brisk fulcrum
Is black one comfortable with it?
he pretty much has the "idgaf" generic chill typa personality
brisk fulcrum
Language, not tongue...
Can relate on this part. I once was in a whole Wild West...
sorry, whenver im angry my brain cant properly process languages-
earnest halo
One of the people there was non-binary. Other is transphobic. Transphobic one once tried to explain non-binary one that they "just have interanlized mysoginia" and that "you can't feel your gender", and non-binary one returned that "they're agender". And it's one of the tamer conflicts.
(why the hell did I type it?)
earnest halo
he pretty much has the "idgaf" generic chill typa personality
Good for him...
brisk fulcrum
he still insults when he needs to
i am leaving that school next year if i pass, maybe just maybe ill be able to cut contact
every time i try to affirm my gender they take a mock screenshot out of context.
earnest halo
So, these are IRL people?
Well, really hope you'll be able to move out. Why would you need these acquintances.
earnest halo
he still insults when he needs to
And when he needs it? I don't think you need to insult anyone at any time.
brisk fulcrum
SOMEONE WHO I FUCKING CONSIDERED MY RIGHT HAND AT ONE POINT IS NOW BUT A HOMOPHOBIC SHITHOLE TELLING ME I CANT BE WHO I WANT TO BE BECAUSE IM FAT
brisk fulcrum
And when he needs it? I don't think you need to insult anyone at any time.
when he needs it as in when he talks to me
to mock me, ive never even been gay
ive tried to tell them so many times
i now default to masking...
earnest halo
SOMEONE WHO I FUCKING CONSIDERED MY RIGHT HAND AT ONE POINT IS NOW BUT A HOMOPHO...
Well, it's a great reminder that you should vet people as in who you tell your private information.
brisk fulcrum
PATHETIC FUCKING PATHETIC, THE PEOPLE WHO I ONCE CONSIDERED MY LEFT AND RIGHT HANDS ARE NOW TWO HOMOPHOBIC FUCKS AND SOON TO BE MY WORSE ENEMIES
earnest halo
If they don't share your beliefs, they may as well use your information against you...
Still doesn't justify whatever they're doing.
They're just assholes, and I'm not sure what you can do about it 💔
earnest halo
when he needs it as in when he talks to me
Is he even your friend? I don't think you'd insult your friends each time you meet them.
earnest halo
PATHETIC FUCKING PATHETIC, THE PEOPLE WHO I ONCE CONSIDERED MY LEFT AND RIGHT HA...
They used to be different?
brisk fulcrum
probabl
im not good at reading peoples bad traits, i only ever realize when its too fucking late
earnest halo
im not good at reading peoples bad traits, i only ever realize when its too fuck...
You don't need to read, just directly ask. (if it's about beliefs and not character traits)
brisk fulcrum
idk
earnest halo
...are you alright? I mean, definetely not, but I hope you don't want to do something bad with yourself...
earnest halo
Well, I hope it will get better. Can't do much, but wish you'd be not as miserable (as in feeling bad)...