i know they will support its just really awkward they think im a anti lgbtq cuz my parents are and its also just a big comitmint to embrace being non-binary and its kinda scary but it also feels right so i feel i need to tell my friends but idk advice?
#idk how to tell my friends im non-binary
somber thistle
mellow dock
Ok first of all i recommend be in a safe place when you come out. this really helps kind of calm down the situation. second, writing a letter or smt could help to separate the emotions. just make sure your safe and dont care about it being awkward, its gonna be like that for a while
somber thistle
Ok first of all i recommend be in a safe place when you come out. this really he...
i can only do it online cuz i moved last year
well im visting in the summer but i cant wait
mellow dock
perfect, then doing it over text is prolly the best option
somber thistle
ya ig i just cant bring myself to send the message not cuz they will dislike me just cuz idk its scary ig
mellow dock
oh yeah its scary, but you dont have anything to worry about, not really. coming out is really weird but youll get through it i believe in you. its gonna be weird or scary for a while and you dont have to some out but getting it off your chest is great, and since theyre supportive what is there to worry about? if you want, we can do this, i come out to my parents as a therian while you come out to your friends on the same day, so you know your not alone. trust me it is weird but you gotta get through it sometimes.
ocean otter
somber thistle
its nice to know theres ppl that care out there
mellow dock
dont even ask me that of course you can
somber thistle
thanks
mellow dock
sleep on it and get back to me when your ready
somber thistle
ok
mellow dock
if you ever need to talk just come here
somber thistle
i mean i am going through some stuff
mellow dock
wanna talk?
somber thistle
i posted about it in mental health if u wanna read about it
mellow dock
i just read it. im sorry your going through that
somber thistle
ya
mellow dock
being 14 and still acting like a kid is ok, sometimes our brains just grow differently. nothing is ever wrong about anyone. and what you said about your parents, dont come out to them. i learnt that the hard way when i came out to some of my friends. if you dont feel safe then dont tell them.
i know your going through some dark times and its ok. your not the only one, im going through stuff and if you see the other posts there are so many more. but the important thing to remember is that sometimes, you gotta pick yourself up and move on, and i know you probably get that a lot, "move on", but sometimes what that means is picking yourself up and doing somethign you love.
i always told myself i had no future, that was when i was in jounior high
somber thistle
no i dont mean i act like one i feel like one as in i cant do anything my parents do anything for me and i very much can do these thing i dont but i cant make myself i feel like a horrible person who doesn nothing with my life i wanna go outside but i dont my screen time is 10+ hours a day i sleep in all the time wasting any time i use for not online i dont even clean my room and im to lazy to do anything other then game all day i dont leave my room or my house other then school which im failing i feel awful when im online but still continue to anyway and i cant stop being online
i have no hobbies other then gameing
mellow dock
well, thats ok.failing highschool is fine, it doesnt mean there isnt a future. not cleaning your room or being online too much could be a problem
but
mellow dock
being online can be a outlet for some and maybe thats your outlet
somber thistle
but i hate it
mellow dock
and thats ok too, just gaming is fine
somber thistle
i wanna live not be online all the time
mellow dock
so do i, but sometimes thats life.
somber thistle
i also just hate how i cant do anything i cant cook my own meals clean my own room im just a lazy person who does nothing
mellow dock
well, not nothing, you do this and you game. not cooking and cleaning is pretty common, youd be surprised
and theres no such thing as lazy. your a person still, not a lazy person
mellow dock
i always told myself i had no future, that was when i was in jounior high
now im in highschool and ive gotten my AED and CPR cert. with red cross and i work as a lifeguard during the summer. i mean, life still sucks but there is a future, you just have to find that path.
somber thistle
but i dont try in anything
mellow dock
brb
somber thistle
i dont wanna do anything i have given up ima fail highschool and idc anymore
mellow dock
maybe you should
mellow dock
you cant bring yourself to?
mellow dock
youre right
but
giving up isnt the end all be all
something you need to understand is that you right now is not you in the future
somber thistle
but wont rn effect my future
mellow dock
sure it can, but it aint the end of it all. your future still will be good and ill promise you that
somber thistle
but i dont see a futrue if i fail highschool and stay lonely as shit
mellow dock
mhm. ever heard of the phrase that goes something like "F students are the inventors" or smt like that. well that doesnt matter, and neither do grades.
sure you need some good grades for college
you can still do things without college
somber thistle
i dont wanna go to college
mellow dock
thats ok also
somber thistle
mhm. ever heard of the phrase that goes something like "F students are the inven...
also i dont think thats true
somber thistle
those are genius who can pass failing
mellow dock
youve got the wrong mindset
you have the chance to be genius.
get out there and do something
its gonna suck for a long time but the rest of it is smooth sailing
trust me and take that leap of faith and try something.
ive gtg for a bit but ill be back dw
somber thistle
i have tried and it never works so i gave up a long time ago
mellow dock
back
but does it really not work or do you go out there, try smt, it doesnt work the first time, you give up?
sometimes it takes time and effort
sleep on this stuff and think about if you want to do the me coming out with you
somber thistle
but does it really not work or do you go out there, try smt, it doesnt work the ...
second one then i just loose all motivation and cant try again even if i want to
mellow dock
thats the point of effort. when i started my musical career, it was hard and i wasnt the best but with the time and effort and not giving up i got through it and now i play in a band, we sometimes play gigs, and more
goodnight bro, stay safe
somber thistle
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