I need advice on coming out as a BI femboy to my closest friend

[gusty meadow]

Slight back knowledge my friend already knows I’m bi and don’t fully know what I am rn but before when the topic had come to femboys he’s voiced his dislike to them but he’s fine with me being bi. Should I just never tell him or risk our friendship over being a femboy?

Also I’ve been having slight thoughts that I’m trans

[arctic bison]

just tell him or like if you do throw on ur femboy clothes it cant be that hard if he alr knows ur bi

he will understand trust ,e

[gusty meadow]

I ain’t got femboy clothes tho 😭

It’s scary cus I don’t even fully know what I am tho

[fallow pelican]

Maybe wait until you do have a good idea of where you align in terms of gender, and also if you know your friend won't accept you and you don't want to risk it it's okay to not tell him immediately (or at all).

[gusty meadow]

yeah I kinda think I align as the in between like I’m kinda a bit more feminine then masculine but not fully either

[fallow pelican]

Maybe demigirl or demiflux?

[gusty meadow]

What’s that mean? Sorry I don’t know that many terms tbh

[fallow pelican]

Demigirl is a nonbinary identity where you're kind of neither gender but leaning female.
I did also say demiflux in the last message, which means that basically one part of your gender is solid and the other part shifts in the intensity of basically a second gender, but I think it doesn't fit your description in retrospect

[gusty meadow]

So Demi girl is kinda like u stick mostly with feminine but can change a lil the amount of your masculine identity?

[fallow pelican]

I believe that's more similar to the second one, where one part of your gender (feminine) stays, and the other part (masculine) changes in strength

Demi girl is that you're fully not either female or male, but like if it was a spectrum you'd be closer to female

[gusty meadow]

So kinda just femboy but if you kinda identify as a women?

[fallow pelican]

No, not femboy, just neither gender with a little girl

Femboy is when you're just a guy that prefers being feminine

[gusty meadow]

I like being feminine but I identify as semi feminine

[fallow pelican]

Hmm
I do think that might be demigirl then
What you prefer to present as doesn't have to be fully related to your gender, and if you think you're half girl then demigirl makes sense
I'd recommend though that you look up the terms yourself because it will make it easier to know if you have a larger selection than what i know, and you'd get better/multiple explanations

[gusty meadow]

Honestly I think I fit better with Demi girl tbh

[fallow pelican]

Okay, if you feel comfortable with that then go with it
If you find another label later then you can just change it, and if it doesn't fit change back
You don't have to be stuck with one label if at any point you start feeling that it doesn't represent you anymore

[gusty meadow]

I’m honestly scared to tell my other friend she’s also gay(she’s pansexual) I just rlly dunno how to she still views me as straight just gay

[fallow pelican]

Does she have any other friends that are trans? If so she'll probably be accepting of you too

[gusty meadow]

I ain’t rlly trans tho and I think she does

[fallow pelican]

Oh mb, i thought you meant about telling her you don't feel like a guy
If you want to tell her that ur bi then just go for it, if she's pan she'll understand

[gusty meadow]

I do feel like a guy abit but also a bit of a girl

She knows that I’m Bi I just don’t know how to explain I’m a Demi girl cus mix of male and female in my case

[fallow pelican]

How about bigender or demi-bigender?
Do you think maybe those could work?