#I don't like my friends and don't want to be friends with them.

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blazing cove
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My friends are homophobic and ableist, and i don't like trying to blend in and say things against my morals.RainbowBisexual

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Please Someone help

harsh coyote
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I'm gonna ask a couple questions, is that okay?

blazing cove
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Yeah

harsh coyote
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How long have you been trying to blend in?

blazing cove
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2 years

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a long time

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😭

harsh coyote
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And how long ago did you realize your true colors?

blazing cove
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As being bi?

harsh coyote
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Yes

blazing cove
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2 months ago but i tried blending in by also being rude to people and making inapropiate jokes, (i feel bad)

harsh coyote
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So you were used to this before you found out about yourself?

blazing cove
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I din't feel good saying those things, ive always been a an ally (my real best friend is not straight)

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Not used to

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just did it so they wouldent be mean to me

harsh coyote
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Well I was in a similar boat as you once. Except most my friends support me. My advice would be to be more ✨independent✨

blazing cove
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My only friend that knows im bi is my real best friend

harsh coyote
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And with your independence, go out and try to find friends who actually support/respect lgbtq related topics and/or members.

blazing cove
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Ive found a few but they are going away to differant highschools next year

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Thank you, just for talking to me.

harsh coyote
# blazing cove My only friend that knows im bi is my real best friend

Great start! My advice for you and your friend is that you slowly ghost this homophobic friend group, as it won't do any good staying behind, and that you both try getting out and finding those who support/relate to your struggle. With that, it'd be easier for you to be comfortable being yourself.

harsh coyote
blazing cove
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Your really kind.

blazing cove
harsh coyote
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Seeing others who struggle hurts to see, so I want to try and help rather than keep continuing with my day as if someone else isn't struggling.

harsh coyote
# blazing cove I'll try.

Stepping out of your comfort zone and being yourself is a big step and a great start to embracing your sexuality and standing out from others makes you more approachable for others who may have struggled with similar issues.

blazing cove
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I try to stop talking to them but the truth is they arn't HORIBLE people they are just rude to minoritys and "majortys" and they are miss informed. ive tried to stop talking to them for a week but it gets boring and i feel like they will make fun of ME if i do anything agaist norms.

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Im a boy

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but have long hair

harsh coyote
blazing cove
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and some make fun of me for having long hair

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i don't really notiice them

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but it "ruffles my feathers"

harsh coyote
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I'm picking up what you're putting down

blazing cove
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I don't care for it really

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and its moslty my friends joking

harsh coyote
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It sounds like you're in between a rock and a hard place right now. Have you thought of any solutions on your own

harsh coyote
blazing cove
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Survive the rest of the school yeat

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Is my only solution

harsh coyote
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If that's the only opening you see right now, I say go for it

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Try to stay down low but don't make it obvious

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And try not to be as hurtful to others as if you mean it, you'll be less likely to feel bad afterwards

blazing cove
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I usally start like thinking bad about just thuings during and after school like jsut bad things, like not exsplicit just bad i don't kno how to exsplain it

harsh coyote
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I don't have anywhere better to be honestly, lol

blazing cove
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Like punching the kid who flushed the pride flag down the toilet.

harsh coyote
blazing cove
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I would never do it

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And a good 80 % is hommophobic

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and i feel like i would get jujmped if i did, i live in a safe neighbourhood just some of the kids are kinda, odd

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and misinformed

harsh coyote
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I get that

blazing cove
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Just like, all people think being a fury is bad or you think your an animal. which it isn't for most. and it makes me mad, that they're super rude to people

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Im bad at exsplaining it

harsh coyote
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What you're trying to say is it's infuriating to you that others don't understand, nor try to understand furries from their perspective. People who don't like/understand things that are new/different will take any opportunity to make fun of it just to seem normal and fit in with the bigger crowd, even if they don't actually think that way. Similar to like how you act homophobic around your friends so they don't start to feel suspicious or catch onto you being bisexual.

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Am I correct?

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Or close?

blazing cove
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I don't act homophobic

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I just don't tell them not to say homophobic things

still saffron
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What is an Ableaist?

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Ableist*

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If I may ask

blazing cove
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Someone who makes fun of someone with a disability

blazing cove
still saffron
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That is against every human unspoken rule. This is atrocious and utterly scrumptious!

harsh coyote
blazing cove
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Yeah, people in my class were making fun of a football team with dwonsyndrom

blazing cove
blazing cove
still saffron
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They are your friends, but I see you don’t like them. If I was you, I would distance yourself more and more and leave the friend group and search another friends

still saffron
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And now I have VERY cool and good friends

blazing cove
harsh coyote
# blazing cove Yeah.. i feel bad not saying things

That's normal to feel when everyone is being awful to someone and the guilt gets to you because you didn't try to stand up for others. Well, I've tried my best to help so if my advice wasn't as good, I apologize. I'm like 14 and I've only realized I'm bi like 3 days ago, lol

blazing cove
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And im not bi bi im bicurious and still finding myself

still saffron
blazing cove
harsh coyote
blazing cove
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Congrat

harsh coyote
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Thanks. Idk what to say either honestly, still tryna adjust

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lol

blazing cove
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Honstly the country i live in is really accepting and so is my city 9kinda) butmy school just isn;t

harsh coyote
blazing cove
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I needed to make a new dc account to be myself

blazing cove
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my friends i really trust is my pride friend (best friend) and my other friend but i don't know if shes homophobic or not. Like the time/place is kinda "professianl" so we dont talk about that stuff

harsh coyote
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Nice that you took note of that there's a place and time for that kind of thing. Kudos to you

blazing cove
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Yeah thanks, im going to get off its 12 am rn

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Thank you, just thank you

harsh coyote
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Same for me. Thanks for the talk

harsh coyote
blazing cove
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Goodnight, or early morning

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for me

harsh coyote
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Goodnight

still saffron
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I wish you the best