#can anyone(ftm) give me tips?

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cosmic warren
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so, i’m 13(14 in june) & i’m pre-EVERYTHING. this is mostly due to the fact that, obviously, i’m young. my parents aren’t supportive, infact EXTREMELY phobic, & i live in the middle east(yippee). i know the “cut your hair & deepen your voice” trick, but because of current conflicts in the region i’m unable to get a haircut that i’ve been waiting to get, let alone go outside my home. i have a binder from amazon, & i think my face is somewhat fem-androgynous but i’m really desperate because mental & physical dysphoria of all kinds are hitting me hard at all angles & i just really want some help. again, i’m desperate. how can i validate myself without feeling corny or cringe? i’ve tried even staring at the mirror & telling myself straight up that i’m a boy, but it just feels like i’m lying. especially because i’m mlm & i just feel like a masculine girl playing dressup. but i hate being percieved as a woman. i despise it. please help. thank you all

tulip solar
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I may or may not be what you want. I'm afab genderfluid, and in a similar situation with my family. im 15 (turning 16) i find that it helps me when I'm feeling masc to talk to friends, or even just strangers online like here, and ask them to call me what i want to be called. You might even connect really well with a few people, and have someone consistently there for you when you need it. It might feel a little awkward or uncomfortable first telling them, but i promise, it's worth it

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A part of my identity is that i don't have a name (chosen to. I have a deadname) and it's always awkward for me to explain to new people. But every time i do, it gets easier. Same with when i change my pronouns. This is a good way to socially transition.

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For the physical comfort things, i don't know how much I'll be of help, but my advice is have fun with yourself. Do something silly, play a game you like, be active and confident. If you find things to enjoy about yourself, you'll be less stuck on the things you hate or dislike

cosmic warren
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thank you so much!