#coming out as trans (ftm) to my parents

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frigid kelp
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back in december of 2024 i had to come out to my parents about being lesbian against my will, and my mom was really supportive, my dad on the otherhand, would joke about it but wouldnt fully accept me. as of recently, we've had a few talks and he does support me, but he wishes i wasnt into girls.

the thing is, since around the same time i came out, i've been exploring my gender. and, as of earlier this school year, i've come to terms that i am trans (ftm). my friends except me and some of my teachers are aware and except me as well.

but idk how to come out to my parents. knowing my father had a hard time getting used to my attracting nature towards girls (i dated a guy a few months ago and i feel that got his hopes up, but i broke up with him bc i just wasnt feeling anything), i just cant see myself coming out to him anytime soon. my mother on the other hand, was super supportive, but earlier this year, we were shopping for clothes (i was specifically trying on pants) and she was asking me if i was trans because i had the flag as some of my phone widgets, but i couldnt bring myself to tell her, so i lied, making a dumb excuse that she somehow believed.

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had to cut down for length issues

i still have the flag in subtle places, like using beads on the laces of my shoes, on the back of my phone, and i hope to get pins sometime. i try to come off as more masculine, both for myself and my comfortability, and to subtly tell them, "hey, i dont identify with female terms anymore."

ive been wearing less feminine wear and i cut my hair really short for my birthday this year. my dad loves my hair short and in all honesty, i love how short it is, it feels right, and it made me so happy how excited he's been about my haircut. and he's been okay with me wearing what i like, mostly in school, but still. i feel lately he's letting me be my own person, and sometimes it feels safe, but, again, i doubt he'll like it.

so if i don't come out to him, should i come out to my mom? im worried she wont accept me, at least not for a while. i feel like she would think im going to far with this, that im becoming too much, whatever the case, i just want to feel accepted and comfortable in my own home.

frigid kelp
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nvm she found out

gaunt geyser
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gaunt geyser
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i havent came out as unlabled yet