My mom says I act like a boy

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So.. Lately I've been kinda "aggressive" but don't hurt anyone.. Like.. I throw a punch at someone without hitting them and my mom says that's not lady-like. I know it isn't but I'm just kidding and it's not like I always do that.

Today my brother threw a plush at me which has rock eyes. The eyes hit me and it hurt so I got a bit mad and threw it back to my brother with the eyes facing him so it'd hurt him too. He got hurt and started to complain. Then my mom came in the room and my brother told her that I hit him. So she told me to follow her in the hallway. I got grounded and she said I am not a boy, I should be delicate, feminine, cute, pretty and gentle.

Then my big brother came down stairs and she went back to the kitchen. When I started to tell my big bro what happened because I find it unfair that I'm the only one who gets grounded since my lil bro started it. And my mom came back to say my big brother can't do anything about it so I better stop complaining. And I hate it because my mom is one of the reasons why I feel bad about myself and will end up ||kms||.

I might as well become a guy so I'll have a reason to act like a boy.

[lunar lily]

Now I may not be good at comforting people.

But I just wanna say that your mom doesn’t decide on how you act, especially when it’s about how a girl or a boy should act. We as humans are different after all in many ways whether it’s a personality, body, anything. So don’t let her analogies about what a girl should act get into your mind and affect the way you truly should act (because obviously if you get hit and you hit back it’s the act of self defense or whatever, you shouldn’t hold back in any way even if your mom says that’s not what girls should do, because that’s a completely stupid analogy in any way possible).

Now I’m not sure how I can help with your family issues on their own.. but if you need someone to talk to, you can talk to me anytime I’m online.

I hope you have a great day.