Came out

[solemn rock]

Yesterday was my 19th birthday. I came out as lesbian to my mother. I'd implied it before, but now she has no doubt.

She told me to talk it through with my therapist to see if it can be fixed.

My therapist is as conservative as her.

I don't understand whats next. I'm trying to make peace with that.

The thing is, I don't want to 'fix' myself. I don't want to see homosexuality as a sin.

But I'm playing on so many grounds- social, personal, religious.

Any words of advice? Especially if there are any queer Muslims here, but honestly, I need anyone to tell me.

How do I reconcile who I am with who I need to be?

[coarse osprey]

I also have religious parents but I’d say just switch therapists and don’t cut office contact with your mother but set boundaries and if she crosses those boundaries multiple times then it’s necessary to cut her off

[stoic blade]

first/second: happy late birthday twin!! (it was mine too lol)
third: you do NOT have to agree with anyone who doesn't believe the same things as you. you can be yourself NO MATTER WHAT anybody tells you.
fourth: i agree with the person above. switching therapists is an option. one thing i did was, while my parents were in the bathroom, i asked if my therapist would support me, even if my parents didn't. so maybe you can do that, and if they say no, you can tell your parents it smelled like something bad, or that you got a weird vibe. if they say yes, then you can ask if they would tell your parents and go from there. it worked great for me, and i hope it works amazingly for you too! 😄