#Help on deciding sexuality??

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drifting basalt
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Hello! Can anyone tell me what i might be experiencing. so for a little bit of context, i like romantic media, especially love songs or romantic movies and stories and I WOULD like a partner in my life and I am kinda wanting the sexual aspect but like get rlly nervous and weirded out abt the thought of someone actually kissing, touching, or engaging with me like that and only kind of enjoy doing it myself iykwim. I dont even really like to hug people to be honest, and i always feel bad for feeling awkward when hugging my dad or friends ive known for literal years. I like the idea of going out on little dates and hanging out with someone but i cant fathom the idea of someone being with me or vice versa and the reality of actually being around someone all day, every day makes me a lottle irritable and doesnt feel appealing. I can't seem to find any kind of label or umbrella term that fully fits it and I'm afraid of self-labeling, especially if I'm wrong abt it. let me know if you need clarification on anything. I am naturally a bit anxious especially abt my body but I feel like thats not really everything it is :(( im just feeling confused. Even watching physical acts like kissing, making out, suggestions of sexual acitvities, etc, make me feel kind of uncomfortable and awkward and I always skip past it if I can.

simple lava
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well, i'd say you're definitely somewhere under the aromantic and asexual umbrellas

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maybe aegoromantic and aegosexual (also called aegorose)? it means that you enjoy the idea of either activities, but you do not experience romantic and sexual attraction and/or you do not want to participate in such activities.

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there's more info on the sexuality wiki, but that's a brief description

drifting basalt
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Awesome!! Thank you so much! I'll definitely do some more research about it. I did do an asexuality test last night from reddit and got a 43/60 but I dont really like doing the tests because sometimes I don't really understand the questions or the wording. I feel like they can be unreliable sometimes too. I'll definitely look more into it though. Thank you for the help!!

drifting basalt
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Okay I did a little more research on the terms you stated and I really resonate with them!! Thank you so much for the help!! I'm really happy I can put a name to how I feel and that im not alone on it :]]

dense rose
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if you ever feel questioning or confused you can always just not put a label on it while you are still figuring it out

drifting basalt
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