I really want to come out to my parents, but I don't know if they r homophobic or not. Sometimes they seem homophobic, and other times they don't. I'm just so confused and need help!
#How do I know if my parents r homophobic?
merry tangle
nimble solstice
Uhhh well that's complicated, maybe you could ask them but Like you're not part of the community, your safety first.
ornate blade
what prev said, tbh if they aren't actively progressive it can be better to just wait until your stable enough to live on your own if they take it badly but while safety does always come first it's also important to think about what will make you happy in the long run.
azure hill
Ask them subtle questions that are kinda lgbtq related like maybe ask them their thoughts on pride month not being recognized any more or something?
I mean I just set my vr character to a pride outfit and she shares the same account so she kinda figured and I just decided to pull a hail Mary and tell her out of nowhere but please be safe!
mint jasper
I really want to come out to my parents, but I don't know if they r homophobic o...
why do they seem like they are or arent?
merry tangle
why do they seem like they are or arent?
At my church, (lgbtq supportive), it was pride day or month or something I don't remember, it was a couple years ago. I took some random flags home and then my parents took them from me and told that I am I boy. And another time, they found out about a gay couple at school and said good for them. So I really don't know
merry tangle
I think they meant that I am a boy, nothing else, like non-binary or trans
mint jasper
are you btw?
merry tangle
I am boyflux
mint jasper
if you came out what would it be as
merry tangle
?
mint jasper
you didnt specify what youd come out as
you used the word homophobic which implied youd come out as gay
but i want to make sure
merry tangle
I meant like they might not like anything related to gay people
I would come out as omni and boyflux
mint jasper
its possible for them to be transphobic but supportive of gay people
thats what it sounds like it could be
im assuming youre amab?
merry tangle
yes
mint jasper
if you came out as boyflux im not sure if theyd be receptive
im sure theyd be fine with it since its still relatively in line with your agab but im not sure about supportive, maybe theyd just ignore it or think its 'weird' and move on
i dont think theyd be upset, but i dont think theyd understand or really care to
or at least thats not the vibe i get, you know them better than i do
merry tangle
Alright, thank u for all the help!
mint jasper
omni however you have a better shot at
if they openly said 'good for them' about a gay couple then theyre not homophobic unless it was meant ironically
it sounds like they arent usually very openly supportive or understanding of lgbt stuff? so maybe i would tell them youre bi instead just because its sometihng more likely for them to recognize
functionally it would get across the same information i believe?
but would probably make the conversation easier if you have doubts theyd be open
merry tangle
I will try that! Thank u!