#Relationship Feelings

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urban cobalt
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I have a girlfriend who has had a lot of difficulties at home and with boyfriends who took advantage of her. And then she met and fell in love with me two years ago. Now we are still in a relationship and we are both heading towards starting college later this year. I love her but I feel weird because her love for me is intense, which makes me feel like I have a lot of pressure, especially since she has been in some bad situations with boyfriends in the past. She is also demisexual and demiromantic, which I know sometimes correlates with intense feelings with a person after developing a bond with them. I need suggestions for how to navigate with this situation. Thank you for letting me vent.

sand tapir
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My recommendation is to keep cool, calm, and collected.

“Her love for me is intense”

  • This suggests that she adores you, wished you were her only partner. This is a totally normal situation from what you described, as from what it seems, you don’t ‘take advantage’ of her like her previous boyfriends, it’s trust, she has tonnes in you
normal musk
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As someone who is also demiromantic i think she just simply loves yoy deeply since being demiromantic is someone who has feelings for another after developing a deep personal bond and given the fact that you said she's been in bad relationships in the past is another factor because this is a relationship she's truley happy with. So my advice is to just keep doing what your doing and always care and be there for her.

little bobcat
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Just be respectful and be there for her, all that stuff

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But I don't really see an issue here in your relationship

urban cobalt
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It just feels weird when she has a much higher level of attraction that feels borderline like obsession and I feel like I can easily mess things up

little bobcat
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Ive been there

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Just try and match her energy the best you can

urban cobalt
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I also feel weird because I don't actually know if I'm actually going to want to keep dating her in college or not