Identity questioning (extremely long post) | Pridecord | Page 1

gentle coral Jan 20, 2026, 6:33 AM

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this is gonna be one hell of a rant, so bear with me. please do not feel obligated to respond! any and all advice is appreciated—if you have something to say which you think might be helpful, please, by all means, say it! and a major thank you to anyone who's taking the time to read this! <3

to start, i'm a 19-year-old AMAB student who's fortunate to be living in a very accepting part of the US. i identify as asexual, biromantic and non-binary. as of recent, i've been questioning and feeling less and less sure about said identities. i'm not entirely sure i'm any of them, actually.

i've identified as asexual since i was 13. to this day, i've never felt any form of sexual attraction. still, i'm not sure if i am actually asexual. i've just been assuming this entire time, but i have doubts—maybe i just have yet to feel it? then again, i'm definitely old enough to already have. it's difficult to say. maybe i'm just in questioning, idk. i don't think there's any way to really figure this out for sure, but if anyone has any advice, i'd be super grateful for it!

on the romantic side, i have definitely gotten crushes/felt romantically attracted to women, there's no doubt about that. occasionally, i have also felt very slight romantic attraction toward men, but it's never been anything which seemed very real. i also really like the idea of dating a man, but i don't know if i ever actually would. i'm currently going with biromantic but i may actually just be attracted to women—trixic or neptunic or whatever the term is.

finally, i'm not sure about being non-binary either. i've been heavily considering becoming transfem, but i feel uncomfortable being referred to with she/her or she/they pronouns. i do really wish i were a woman, but since i wasn't born female, i don't think i quite identify that way. i also still feel very slightly connected to some aspects of masculinity so maybe i'm bigender? i dunno

any help you can offer is greatly appreciated! absolutely none of this is urgent and i'm sure i'll have it sorted out eventually, but for now, i think i may need some help. thank you very much, and hopefully the ridiculous length of this post doesn't seem too daunting 😓! hope you have a good morning/afternoon/evening :)

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omg 6 paragraphs i'm so sorry 😭

worldly rose Jan 20, 2026, 10:00 AM

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Regarding gender: You could be either genderfluid, bigender, trigender, still enby, female or girlflux. Then again I am fairly new to this stuff.
I'm not too sure with your attraction but if you are attracted to femininity, including fem males, it could be finromantic but I would say it sounds like you are bi. Then again I know not much of attraction.

paper crypt Jan 20, 2026, 11:41 AM

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for asexual: you may be, you may be not. but if you haven’t felt any sexual attraction so far in your life, i’d say you can keep identifying with this label. of course, if that changes, you can always find a more suitable label then. for now, i think it’s safe to say you’re asexual ^^

for biromantic: well, with most attraction to women and very little attraction to men, this fits pretty nicely with berriromantic. or if you think you fit better under the trixic or neptunic labels, that’s perfectly fine as well. whatever suits you ^^

now, for gender: i’m not really the right person to ask about gender identities. maybe bigender would work, i’m not too sure. one thing i know is that gender ≠ pronouns so you could very well be transfem and have non-feminine pronouns. whatever feels comfortable and suitable ^^

all the best! :)

gentle coral Jan 21, 2026, 1:48 AM

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thank you both, your help is very appreciated :) i'll keep pondering, hopefully will come to a conclusion someday xd

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