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#my boyfriend just came out to me as bi, but i think he's cheating on me with a guy
fervent timber
i ended up asking him why it was his status and he said it was bc he drank a syrup from canada and he really liked it. i then gold him my fear of how he was talking to lochlan again b4 i explained and he proceeded to say that ppl can change and stuff even tho i said i didnt want either of us talking to him and made that clear, but also said that he isn't talking to lochlan. i hope he can respect my boundary but im somewhat doubting it tbh. im just anxious and paranoid is all.
fervent timber
he's now asking me why i hate lochlan sm. bc he tried to ruin our relationship? he said he's trying to be nice but idk. am i just being an asshole for not wanting him to talk to lochlan again or am i like in the right???
copper steppe
he's now asking me why i hate lochlan sm. bc he tried to ruin our relationship? ...
you're in the right, he's being TOO affectionate towards lochlan, he's making references about lochlan (like the canada thing), thats super weird
fervent timber
he said the canada thing was abt syrup and i believe that to an extent but the fact he's sticking up for him after what happened is what's rubbing me the wrong way yk??
copper steppe
yeah uh girl he's trying to covee it up
the maple syrup thing is NOT true
he would not be aiming towards all of canada
fervent timber
tbh that's how i feel but he's given me no reason to not trust it so it's like ughhhh
copper steppe
he would say "i love maple syrup" or smth
fervent timber
that's true actually but he tends to be cryptic with statuses and stuff which is where my brains like ughhh
copper steppe
tbh that's how i feel but he's given me no reason to not trust it so it's like u...
idk what to say, but if i was you, i would ask him directly
i'm really blunt so i would PERSONALLY do that
fervent timber
that's fair. i may ask him abt why he aimed it towards all of canada and not just maple syrup in general bc that's actually pretty reasonable to ask.
fervent timber
tysm!! π«Άπ«Ά
he said "it's bc canadas cool ig?" then asked why he's being interrogated over syrup
im not interrogating him im asking a question π₯Ήπ
copper steppe
oh my god
TWIN...
keep asking, like this is not normal in a non-cheating relationship
say "so, suddenly, canada's cool"
fervent timber
i asked him a question after that and that's when he asked why he's being interrogated but i wasn't interrogating him and now we're arguing but not arguing its rlly weird ππ
peak basin
you shouldn't fear the love of your life i think. it's not a healthy response, healthy situation where you have not only facts but also your intuition where some things just dont feel right. that's a veeeery big thing to consider. i know it can be hard, i broke with my ex 3 years ago cause aaaaaall small things like this and that, and small phrases, jokes, looks compiled. i don't say that you should break up immediately, i'm saying be careful please and go with you gut + mindπππ
fervent timber
tysm. we ended up healthily talking it out and i realized we both weren't communicating the way we should and haven't been for a while, which has actually caused us both to feel a certain way. i don't trust bc of my past and paranoia and explained that to him, so now he understands why it seemed more like interrogating. we just have to work on communication is all but tysm for the advice xx
peak basin
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