hello everyone, i really need advice on what i should do in regards to coming out to my family. i have already come out to my friends, teachers, etc. and i’ve been dating my partner for just over a month now. i’m very happy with who i am and my relationship is incredibly healthy, but the only problem now is my parents. i tried coming out to them when i was 11 and was met with being ignored by my dad and months worth of endless drama from my mom, who told me i was being “influenced to think this way” and that “my friends are bad people who are making me think this way”. I was forced to cut contact with them in her attempt to make me feel “normal” i guess but my feelings about who i am never changed. I’m gay and that’s end of story. I’m just scared because I’m almost and adult and have plans to move out soon, but I can’t just hide an entire relationship from my parents forever. My mom says she’s changed and that she’s accepting of everyone for who they are and that they need to express themselves, but I don’t know if I can just trust those words. I worry that my mom is already onto my partner & I being more than friends and I don’t know if I should tell my parents before or after I move out or if I should even tell them at all?? Sorry if this is lengthy or extreme, i’m not sure how this works, i’m just looking for genuine advice or support. thanks for reading.
#how do i come out to my family, if at all?
proven rapids
violet vigil
it is probably a good idea to come out eventually, because as you said, you can’t hide a relationship forever. in my opinion, it may be safer to come out after you move out, just in case they react badly. wishing you all the best! ^^
proven rapids
yes, that's what i was thinking. despite how they react, i can't just hide this forever or it'll become a burden upon everyone. now that you've said it, it'll probably be best to wait until i move in case they react poorly. thank you so much for your response ^^