Latelly, I feel left out a LOT. By friends, family, my boyfriend (of one year for context). I know its probably not intentional, but I tend to be forgotten or people are too busy to hang out or just dont invite me. It doesn't help that I've been in a pretty rough place lately, so it feels intentional. Most of my friends are mutuals with my boyfriend, but they've been hanging out only with him. The friends I have outside of mutual friends are either always busy or I have a completely different dynamic with them. Today's been rough. I'm in a group chat with my boyfriend, a few mutual friends, and some of his friends I'm trying to get closer with. The group chat was active today, and I was active in it as well, and even though Ive been in it for a month now, several people forgot who I was (as in my irl name) or that I was in the group chat. Even my boyfriend sadi he forgot I was there. The majority of the group chat is calling and playing a game together now, which was initiated by my boyfriend, and I was not invited to. Realistically, I probably couldn't join bc its hard to play roblox on a chromebook (dont have my phone, though im 17 have to turn it in at 8:30), but I like joked to my boyfriend "dang not gonna invite me to play i see how it is haha" and he didnt even respond. Idk if somethings up, I don't know if I'm just being jealous, but all around I fon't know what to do. I dont want to be a burden. It feels like no one talks to me or spends time with me unless I initiate it. I've had conversations to my boyfriend about this, and he's said he would include me more in friend stuff too especially with mutuals but it hasn't happened. Lately it feels like I;ve been telling him less and less. I'm keeping a lot of stuff in and not telling him or anyone else, because if they don;t ask what;s the point. He hasn't seemed to notice I'm down, even when I've told him I'm struglling. I don;t know how to stop feeling left out and jealous. Idk what to do, I feel really alone.
#What do I do?
opaque totem
clever sail
Latelly, I feel left out a LOT. By friends, family, my boyfriend (of one year fo...
srry if this isnt advice you want, i cant really read too well. but you need to talk to him. you need to set things straight. if he doesnt notice u thats his fault not yours. if i can notice you rn, he can notice you. you should probably start little events w ur friends too!! like little things so you can feel included, and maybe once they realize how coolio you are they will notice you and include you!!
(so yeah thats the best advice i really have.) and if ur boyfriend like still doesnt notice you then just break up w him maybe cus if he doesnt notice you then youre not worth his time.
opaque totem
srry if this isnt advice you want, i cant really read too well. but you need to ...
literally any advice is something yk just to have other perspectives. yeah, i probably shoudl talk to him, youre right. and ill try to set things up with friends! that i might hace a hard time with bc setting stuff up is so much more stressful to me than being invited to something they set up. but thank you so much for the advice!