i need help asap. so for context me and my best friend let’s call them smc (shadow milk cookie). smc and i have been friends for 5 year and we recently entered our freshman year of high school and they had brought to my attention that when i get into a relationship with someone i pull away from them, and i realized they were correct. so i apologized for my actions and started making time for them to call and chat, we even went to the mall so pretty good overall but then.. out of nowhere they stopped spending time with me, i knew they had a new group of friends but even during that they still made time to talk to me. so i was so confused, so i texted them about how i missed hanging out with them, i asked if they could possibly crave some time out their day to text me or call. i thought that my message was clear and assertive without being rude. but smc didn’t respond well, they left me on read, and i just assumed it was because i texted them late and that they would respond tomorrow, and we had comic book club together so we could just talk then except… i said “hi” to them and sad “hey” back but they seemed angry, i tried to brush it off (i can overthink at times), and since it was around halloween some gave out candy but didn’t give me any, i jokingly looked at them sad cuz “wow no candy for me”, but they jut said “ don’t sit there and look all sad”. i was so confused
#my best friend of 5 years is starting to pull away from me
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cuz it was a joke but maybe they just didn’t understand that i was joking. so i left and then texted them “are you mad at me?” smc replied back “a little” i asked why and they said they were mad at me for text them that paragraph about how we haven’t been spending time together after they have given me all the time they have. when they haven’t they don’t text unless i text them first, they don’t call unless i call, etc. i wasn’t in the mood to argue so i said i was sorry and that i understood. we have texted since then but it’s just been short one minute texts, even after i asked them to text me first, and they said i will they haven’t. i truly don’t know what to do because this came out of nowhere and i miss them a lot but i don’t feel like they want to be friends. and i have asked them if they are doing okay and if they need anything i’m here. but they always say their fine but idk what to do please help