Helping my struggling girlfriend

[tacit leaf]

TW: mentions of cancer and divorce
Recently my girlfriends life has been very different from how it has been, her uncle just got diagnosed with cancer, and now, as of today, her parents might be getting divorced. I want to help her so badly, but I am shit at helping people with their emotions due to how I deal with my own and have delt with my own In the past. If you have any tips or things to say to her it is much appreciated! I hate to see her in pain/know shes hiding pain so anything to make her feel better helps. thank you!

[river rapids]

Hey @tacit leaf please do not try to absorb other's emotions if you aren't stable/equipped yourself. But talking to someone is good it helps them even if its just a little.

Here is my side of the coin. I hope it helps.

The things I would normally say to people that are in heavy circumstances depends on how close they are to me. I would talk about moments we enjoyed together things that I want to do with them again this creates ambitions or new goals for a person and helps them live and keep fighting. Then discuss dreams together places you want to visit, places you want to go then talk about how you are planning to get there.

[tacit leaf]

thank you sm! That’s probably a better idea then helping when I am not doing to great mentally either. Much appreciated.

[river rapids]

I hope you will be there for them!! Make sure they are heard :)