How do I get the respect from my Dad and get him to acknowledge I am not Cis

[lethal mural]

I am not a girl. I don't have a label for my identity, and I don't want one currently. But I am not a girl.
I don't go by She/Her, I don't want to be someone's girlfriend or wife. I just want to be myself, not what people think I am just because I was born female and obviously appear so despite my best attempts.
I am mostly fine with being female. I am a very androgynous person, so I like having pretty features sometimes, because they pair well with my more masc ones when I'm not feeling insecure. But I want to go on T, I want to be my partners Boyfriend/Partner, and I would still count our relationship as NBLM or MLM, or NBLM for definite.
But my dad still think I am his daughter, even after I sort of came out, basically saying "don't force gender upon me". Which even in its self is a compromise, because I don't believe that I should have to wait till 18 to know, but he think so, so compromise. But it's getting hard and I don't know what to do.

I am not asking for his acceptance. I just want his respect.
But I know if I have a conversation he will say that I am not acting adult enough to even have full respect in general, so how should I get his respect for my identity. It's a presumption yes, but it's how I feel it would go.
I am not asking him to call me They/Them, because unfortunately he has also said that he won't use those pronouns, and I don't need that yet. I just want him to stop calling me his daughter, and these feminine things, which now as I am presenting more masc seem to be forcing femininity and the gender which stereotypically aligns with it on me.

I am scared to be open about it.
I was so scared that when I was identifying as Bi I got my mum to tell him. And it still upsets me that she had to do it for me, but it doesn't matter, because he still doesn't fully believe.
He says I can't talk to him about anything, but he never proves that in his actions and it is making me ill.

As I mentioned I am in a loving relationship, something I am so proud of. But I am scared to tell him.
And on the subject of relationships, I don't know what he will see my relationship as.
I believe I will be with my partner forever, but there is still a hypothetical that annoys me, of what 'sexuality' or like label my relationship would be if I were to date various genders, like trans people or cis people. Would he see it as we see it , or would I be seen as a woman in each of them and my relationship being decided by our biology?
Because if I was with a woman, I would not be in a lesbian relationship. I am not a woman, and I also don't identify as a lesbian.
Same goes for being with a guy. I am not straight. I am queer. Any relationship I have is queer, and I will not be a woman in any dynamic.

I just don't know how I can talk to him.
His most frequent personality is this kind of sarcy guy, who has this voice that, if I talk to him when he is like that, I know he won't be open to changing his opinions or hearing me out respectfully. But the other is his personality I like more, where he is fun, happy and a lighter tone, but I still feel to awkward to say anything, but my mum would also not like me ruining the good mood he is in...

I don't know what to do.
All I want is a bit of respect and understanding.
I just want to stop feeling so disconnected from him.

I am sorry for how much I have written.

[neon palm]

This is a tough situation but it's also a common one. Sometimes when it comes to parents or guardians who don't respect your identity and choose to ignore it, they won't change. I'm not sure how old you are but if you're not over 18 I would say once you ARE over 18 and choose to move on in your life further with your partner, be it moving out or going to college, maybe you can have a conversation then about how all you want is respect and appreciation from him even if he doesn't fully understand it. On the flip side though, sometimes people never change, it's sad and it hurts, especially when it's a parent but when that happens I encourage you to look to those who DO respect you and see you as who you are. There's never a requirement to label your identity or sexuality, however you could do a "fake label" when it comes to that conversation with him and say that you're queer so maybe he can see that you aren't just a "normal cis straight daughter"

But I would definitely say just try to take it day by day for now and not let his opinions get to you, it sounds like you have a supportive mom so maybe you can confide in her about how you're feeling about your dad more, same with friends or your partner, let them know how you're feeling so maybe they can support you even more and make up for the lack of support form your dad at the moment.

[lethal mural]

Thank you :)

I really appreciate the advice