Ive been wanting to tell my dad, who doesn't seem to have very positive ways of thinking towards the LGBTQ+ community, that I think I want to be a girl (probably trans or gender fluid) but my mom is my only family member who knows at the moment (who isn't with my father anymore, they never married just haven't gotten along) but she's out of town, so if my dad has a negative reaction I couldn't go to stay with her for a bit, and she has no house here and has been trying to get money together to come back. I don't think my dad would have a negative reaction because I know how much he loves me and how he'd love me no matter what (I think) but I'm scared he'd misunderstand something or overreact, and it's harder for me since he's loved his son for so long, Ive heard him say abt him being happy I was a boy once, and he even has my name tattooed right under his shoulder, even if he isnt angry I don't want to make him sad or disappointed, it doesn't help that I'm only 15 and that's a whole other world of reasons of what could go wrong. Please help if possible.
#How do I come out to a dad that might not support?
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Extremely socially anxious about this post but whatever
There was also this time awhile ago some people I knew online found my moms Facebook through mine and contacted her telling her some true and some false information (one of which being I was trans) because I was having those thoughts at the time. I remember my mom and dad talking to me about it, it's all kind of a blur because I was extremely overwhelmed at that moment but the number one thing I remember at least a little is my dad showing me a picture of James Charles or someone of a similar look and being angry saying something like "This is a gay person, is this what you want to be?" And that was enough to suppress those thoughts for almost a year if I recall
It's all just very scary, but I know things won't go anywhere and my worrys won't change if I don't do something
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There was also this time awhile ago some people I knew online found my moms Face...
I would personally say if u really want to make sure your safe first
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I would personally say if u really want to make sure your safe first
I don't think he'd like
Hurt me or something
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I don't think he'd like
You’ve got to be sure, I got outed and then smacked so hard I had a mark
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There is a real example of why you want a back up plan
I didn’t cause I wasn’t ready to come out as gay but life happens
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I swear people have no real reason to hate on lgbtq, it's just people being scared of change