hinting

[timber oasis]

how do i hint to my HEAVY CHRISTIAN FRIENDS that don’t rlly like the LGBTQ+ community and hopefully won’t tell my christian parents that think im a “christian” and would get mad if im not. um. anyway how do i hint to them that im bi and have been since 5th grade, idk fs if i will but i need advice for if i do sorry its a lot lol

[obtuse plank]

you dont neccesarily have to drop hints if you arent comfortable. your safety on this topic should be top priority. may I also ask, what denomination are your parents?

and friends?

[timber oasis]

wdym what denomination? sorry

[vagrant vigil]

If you're sure that they're homophobic, the simple answer is don't

[obtuse plank]

like, what type of christian, baptist, catholic, presbytarian

you can probably ask them

because different denominations have different views on queer people

[timber oasis]

mmm yeaa but it’s still hard. i’m also trans and that is harder than me being bi yk

[timber oasis]

ohh i’m not sure abt my friends my parents idk they call themselves christians they never say a certain denomination

[obtuse plank]

then they may be non denominational

[vagrant vigil]

oh, that complicates things ten fold, and do you get dysphoria?

[obtuse plank]

which is most likealy a very BIG no-no for telling them

[timber oasis]

yeaaa

its hard tho. especially bc im also trans but cant tell them

my friends in this community know and support ofc bc they r bigender but that’s it

[pure trout]

I have this exact problem right now. I came out to them as bi yesterday and they didn't like it, but they still wanted to be happy for me. Deep down i feel like they're disappointed in me though, since i was a heavy Christian but since have shifted away from the religion slightly.

Im also still not sure they fully understand what i mean.

[timber oasis]

yeaaa

[timber oasis]

i get that. i js i cant say anything bc ik smth will happen and i dont want it to but like part of me wants to tell them but i cant

[regal sky]

Maybe try to wait until u have some independence to tell them

[timber oasis]

idk i wanna tell them but i don’t at the same time and im scared and honestly they wouldn’t like it so ill probably js not say anything

[timber oasis]

but ik the won’t be supportive. they don’t like talking abt it and think it’s wrong and i js cant say anything and talk abt how wrong it is even without me bringing it up and they don’t send me a public bc of that reason and also bc of the fact that my parents r christians and think i am too but im not

[regal sky]

Honestly I'm in a similar situation too.
You might want to tell them but id suggest don't do it until at least you have somewhere else to go if they get toxic about it.
Being bi (or any other sexual orientation) is easier to hide than gender identity, so not telling your parents about you being trans will be hard but you'll be alright.

Depending on ur gender orientation you'd still be able to dress/present your gender and just pass it off as ur clothing style. Just hrt etc. you would have to wait for

[timber oasis]

yea but then they say i dress lazy and want me to dress my gender

i like and act and talk like y trans gender and like everything they like but that’s natural idk how they don’t pick up on it

[timber oasis]

and i’m 15 so that’s for another few years

[regal sky]

Ah
Yeah I see how that can be annoying

Can you perhaps try to show them that ur deadgender (play on deadname) also dresses the way you do? Show them how "dressing one's gender" isn't rly a thing anymore bc of different fashion trends

[timber oasis]

i do but they say i dress lazy and want me to dress more like my gender