Last term at school, I booked an appointment with my school counsellor because I need someone to vent to, because none of my friends listen (or they'll make fun of me). But I shared too much with the counsellor, and she phoned my mum and dad. Now I can't be alone, I can't cook for myself or others (which sucks because I want to be a chef when I'm older) and I can't even go out with friends. Now I'm scared because I go back to school tomorrow and i feel like the counsellor will stop me to talk..
#Shared too much..
ember mulch
alpine plinth
Hey
So first of all, that was really brave of you to talk about your feelings to someone else especially if you were not feeling well, I know it is really hard to share your feelings.
How did your parents react ? Are they there for you ? Are they trying to help you ?
If so, you could maybe ask for personal space.
And I don t know your age and your friends’s but often people outside of the lgbt community, especially younger ones, have no idea how sexual orientation or identification works. So when you pop up as a lgbt member, they would reflect on the stereotypes they have about all this. And since they know you as a whole person, they might not listen to all these stereotypes blindly.
My best friends were kinda homophobic when i came out to them (when we were 16) but they learned about how the lgbt phobic is purely stupid hate through me since they already knew me and nothing change after i told em so they realised how normal this is.
But I live in a different country, culture is not the same, our friends are not the same, so you have to be careful. Make sure it is safe before opening up. And you re not forced to come out, it is supposed to be your choice.
Maybe that was kinda clumsy from your counsellor to tell to your parents and you could tell him next time that you didn’t like that and think that was innapropriate, but he wants (normally) to be your ally, he wants to help you, to give you supports (from your parents for instance)
And if you are not feeling safe with him it is totally fine too, you could tell him that you want someone else, a therapist you would feel safe around.
And it is not your fault, you didn’t share too much, you have the right to be who you are, be proud of who you are, don’t let people tell you that you should be ashamed. Any parts of LGBT has always existed and will forever.
ember mulch
@alpine plinth Hey, my parents were very shocked and also somewhat mad at me, mum is supporting me more then dad is and they're trying to find things that could help me but nothing feels like it's working out.
My age group is 12-15, and over half of my friends are homophobic.
I understand that our culture would be different, I'm Australian.
I would try to get myself a therapist but because I'm so young it's very hard for me to (and also none of my parents have a licence to drive anywhere).
Thank you for the support and advice, seeya
alpine plinth
Well it is nice if you have some support from your mom.
And for the therapist thing you could ask to your counsellor if he s nice, or any other adults like a teacher, a coach etc.
Therapist out there know how hard it is to be around this age so they often are really compliant to help you.
You could also try to tell to your counsellor about the evolution of your situation.
And to look for support among your friends, among people your age, maybe you can look for the nicest one, and tell him and ask him about how you could bring that to the others.
You can also look up on the internet for safe place for lgbt members, like a place they often meet up to, or an association something like that. It would help you a lot since you might feel alone to be that way around others that think it s a big deal