#How do i tell my parents im aroace-

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near dome
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So like, i get this probs aint as big of a thing as coming out to parents if ur les or gay (NO DISRESPECT MEANT BTW, JUST WANNA SAY)

But like, my parents know me as someone who never had crushes or was never generally interested in boys or girls in general, but i feel like that anytime i hint at the idea of never wanting a relationship or a partner they just say "your too young" or "you say this now, but wait till your older" and it's actually annoying.

The more annyoing part is that if i tell them "hey, so i worked out im aroace" they'll just get really mad because they think im being 'influenced' by people my generation, and usually blame it on my friends, who have no part in it. Plus i dont think they understand any of the LGBTQ+ stuff....

They dont know one of my friends is bi, another is les, and im scared if they find out, but like, yeahhh, cause it's really uncomfortable... so idk what to do 💀

astral sky
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People don't asscociate aroace with LGBTQ+, in fact, I used to think it wasn't in it at all

obsidian smelt
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If they’re Christian’s, you can pull the ‘called to singleness card’, and if that goes well later on (once they’ve accepted this part of you) you can tell them you found words to describe what you’re experiencing - aromantic and aroace. (Maybe mention how they help you feel less alone or that you’re not broken if that applies?) Explain what the words mean and don’t jump in right away with the acronym and shorthand, all of the different identities can be a lot and confusing for older generations to catch up to and learn when they didn’t grow up with it like we did. And esp Christian parents, hearing the specific words can have their brains shut off and not be open to listening (this is more generic advice; you have a much better shot at acceptance with parents with aroace as it’s a lack of attraction and doesn’t immediately trigger any LGBTQ+ phobias if you explain it right) Granted idk if you have Christian parents so idk how helpful this will be 😅

cursive flare
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I can relate to the "you say this now" bit. Even though I'm ace and not aro, I told my mom once I don't want kids (only kinda cause I don't like them) and she said that I will change my mind when I'm older. As for the coming bit, I'll be no help as I'm in the closet still too

marble obsidian
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My parents also say that to me cause im gay but i haven't came out yet

near dome
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ty guysss