rancid island
{enby} hrt 3/??/2025
My brother already knows and accepts me, which I found surprising, yet wholesome.
My parents are bigoted and hateful folks (mostly egg donor). The egg donor I know ill never accept me. Dad is 70/30 I feel. he'll probably have a negative reaction at first but i think he'll eventually come around, maybe.
I plan on coming out about 6 months after I move out, which will hopefully be q1 2026, so that way it gives me enough time to make a stable foundation for myself. Overall I doubt (~10% chance) of trying to physically harm me, and if they do i'm 90% sure I can take them lol. Especially if it goes the way it did when they found out i was non religious. I am wondering what the best way to come out to them would be. I was going to tell them the day I moved out, but then I got to thinking and I may want to wait and make a bit of a foundation first. I think possibly in person or over the phone may be the way to go, but if i go in person I definitely dont want to come out at their house. They live in a small town, so its probably not the best idea. I was thinking maybe go to one of the lgbt+ restaurants a city over (1hr drive), and letting them know before hand (the staff), but I dont want them to make a scene and disturb the other patrons.
Alternatively I could just disappear (no contact) because they're such hateful folks, and ma treated/treats me terribly. Not necessarily dad, but hes an enabler, so hes just as bad as that vile egg donor.
I know I probably should just stop trying with them, but a small part of me hopes they'll accept me. Though I doubt it with some of the vile stuff they parrot on a daily basis. Honestly I dont even know what I'm even wanting out of coming out to them. Closure I suppose? To give them one chance to accept me before writing them off completely? Proof that I'm doing the right thing cutting them out of my life? To say I tried?
By the time I come out to them I should be about a year and 1/2 into my hrt transition.
tender brook
