#just need some advice or a first step

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silver pine
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for context, people online currently know me as straight with he/him pronouns, but a great ally

I've been thinking about maybe being ace, or maybe being pan, or maybe being an enby, but I'm too shy to talk to anyone in communities I'm in about it, even though they would probably be accepting. this kinda started from seeing a lot of other people be happy about being lgbtq+, and just generally noticing "wow, I don't think it's a coincidence that so many great people I know are lgbtq+". for how I'm feeling right now:

  • I don't like the irl social norms for being he/him, and I don't feel like I should use she/her. people kind of assume that I use he/him pronouns, and if I saw me, I'd probably think the same thing
  • I'm very confident that I'm ace, but I haven't talked to anyone about it, and I don't think coming out as ace really would do anything? idk (a lot of people would misunderstand, even in my communities)
  • the idea of being pan kinda started just from seeing so many gay, lesbian, bi, and pan people be happy, and I could see myself doing the same, but I'm too shy

if I were to come out to anyone, it would be individual people in my online communities, but I want to check with a lgbtq+ focused community that doesn't have people I interact with first. ty for helping :3

silver pine
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I'll probably be asleep by the time someone responds, but I'll check tmr morning

silver pine
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for the "bi or pan" part, I'm kinda not sure, I've been attracted to guys, girls, enbies, really any, but I didn't feel like gender was a part of why I would be attracted to them

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also tysm for responding

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