#I am anxious

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mint saddle
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I am breaking up with my gf after more than 2 years, long story but doesn't matter, i am anxious right now

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Hi

prisma smelt
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two years is quite a nice amount of years to be with someone, that should be in a stage where foundation is built up strongly in a relationship.

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im not a mind reader, so i wouldnt know right now as well on why your anxious, but if you dont wanna share then its alright but i cant say much either.

mint saddle
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I am hurt a lot

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And we are not perfect for eachother

prisma smelt
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since i really dont know much on whats happening or why are you hurting right now.

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besides on yeah it hurts to think that your breaking up with her.

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after that long time.

mint saddle
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She never treat me good, i used to treat her so good, like writing her letters and doing a lot of things for her but when i stopped she started complaining, she said she liked the old me, i have anxiety disorder i cant call, but she said she cant be in relationship if i cant call even though she apologized now she wants to stay but i cant now i am so hurt i cant deal with her no more and i dont think ill even make it to 30, ill die before that, she loves me for no reason, even if i try my best I can't get myself to love her back again

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After she will go, ill ruin my life

prisma smelt
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i dont know much about relationship but i love observing things and i got a bit of experience with it so this all i can say so far on this one.

thats good that you treated her good, that means you actually loved her, seems reasonable enough to stop when she started complaining, but the question is why did she complain? what was she complaining about?

and what do you mean specifically on you didnt call? this feels like a hint of unhealthy communication, and you did mentioned you got AD and that is hard to manage most of the time hope you are seeing a professional already to manage it, although back to the topic, do you mind answering this questions and some future questions ill ask right now?

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just to clarify things and see clearly on why or what is happening.

mint saddle
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Ask me

prisma smelt
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as i asked, what did she complained? and why did she complained? as you mentioned that earlier.

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is this a long distance relationship at the same time? since im hearing the word "call" it should be talk or something if your both physically there, unless theres a explainable reason on why its call.

mint saddle
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So i have OSDD1-B too, and its so complicated, the poet me used to write her poetry and when i started copying her attitude, she said she liked the before me and you know, she doesnt even call me by names, it feels so bad and i have, Moonknight and Deadpool (caelum) as my alters, caelum sent her a reel, it was about which superhero "I" am like, she said she doesnt know, it hurt me a lot, even though i have talked about moonknight and Deadpool a lot of times before, and its not just that, whenever i send her reels with questions she always says she doesnt know or she just ignore she doesnt show enthusiasm, and whenever i tell her about something i like, she just reacts with a thumbs up it feels like someone is piercing through my heart

mint saddle
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Different continent

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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Never knew therapists talk about their problems too

prisma smelt
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well were all humans in the end lol, im not a licensed one yet as well.

mint saddle
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🔥

prisma smelt
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but im a psychology student if that counts.

mint saddle
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Sure, ill make it count

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A question

prisma smelt
# mint saddle So i have OSDD1-B too, and its so complicated, the poet me used to write her poe...

caelum means sky or heaven, thats a good name. oh dang, getting treated with dry messages? theres two paths with this, its either shes so busy and tired that she cant care much or talk much either, or she straightly just dont want to talk about the certain or specific things its either shes not interested or something, but again im not a psychic who reads minds, so i dont know whats going on with her mind during that, but speculations can be given still.

and yeah she seems like she doesnt pay attention much well whenever you talk about that certain thing about the movie, quite a bad feeling after hearing she doesnt know. does she casually give dry messages and cold responses? if its a yes then how long?

mint saddle
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From like, a year?

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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Or two? I dont remember, but quite a long time

prisma smelt
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at this point that seems like shes not really interested with you during those times. but i cant say much since i dont know the whole context.

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but on that specific note, a year with that? that doesnt seem like a healthy relationship.

mint saddle
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Last night i told her i want to break up she said she doesnt want me to, she needs me in her life

mint saddle
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And i told her about my mental illness, but she doesnt seem to take it seriously, she just reacts with thumbs up whenever i tell her i have OSDD1-B

prisma smelt
# mint saddle Last night i told her i want to break up she said she doesnt want me to, she nee...

hmm, if you feel that the relationship has been being a bit unstable or quite not that healthy anymore, i think its good decision to break up and give it a time a bit so both of you can move on slowly. since a year or two of those? thats a sign of unhealthy communication right there, relationship is not one sided both must be ready to hear one another and care for one another and etc, at that point that feels like just being friends than partners.

mint saddle
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I can never be friends with her

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If i could be anything with her, i would love to be hers but i cant stay with her

prisma smelt
prisma smelt
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thats the challenge you'll face on moving on, you can pass through it or turn your back down on it but it'll hurt if you remember.

mint saddle
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She deserves someone better than me, someone matches her vibes

mint saddle
prisma smelt
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question is, are you really sure with this decision now?

mint saddle
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Yes

prisma smelt
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i see, then its time for both of you to move on slowly.

mint saddle
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I wish she moves on

prisma smelt
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dont rush it since its a bad idea.

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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Hey, I just noticed your username.

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It says caelumius.

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I love that. We are twins

prisma smelt
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yes, its my pen name, lol.

mint saddle
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Conversation without gifs is not even serious

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Dont mind

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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People say caelum sounds like some chemical or element

prisma smelt
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it means sky or heaven, which is nice.

mint saddle
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I know, i have that name for a reason

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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🔥

prisma smelt
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and i picked that name as well since it fits my actual name.

mint saddle
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Can we get back to the topic 😎

prisma smelt
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yes, my bad lol.

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back to it, now how do you feel currently?

mint saddle
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Empty

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Stuck

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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I don't have an answer to that

prisma smelt
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hmm, thats alright.

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so far, all i can say or suggest, be happy for her thats the last thing you can do at this point, you can check up on her sometimes or something just to see if shes not doing anything harmful to herself but if shes not that type of person or she doesnt seem like she will, then its better to give both of yourselves some space, after all you both need to move on.

mint saddle
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But she doesnt want to leave me, she is not listening to me

prisma smelt
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hmm, this will be hard. she gotta understand that your feelings and struggles exist too, i know in her part its also gonna feel bad but you cant really force things out when it doesnt pair much anymore or in another word if the relationship is not healthy anymore theres two options either fix it or end its respectfully and hope for the best for both sides, and in this situation for both of you? its in the verge of the second option where you both need to accept it even if it hurts.

if im in your shoes, i would be sending a final message to her to explain how did you feel for the past few years that you've been with her, explain it so well that she might actually see your perspective in the relationship and the struggles you felt during so, and write the positive things at the same time, this should be enough for her to understand just try to explain it well at one message instead of trying to explain it one by one to her since she'll just not gonna listen to you since of course she doesnt want you to leave. thats really the only thing so far especially when its a long distance relationship.

mint saddle
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I wont tell her everything, she might lose the confidence to get in another relationship and move on

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I want her to feel she's worth more than me

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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I told her as much as i should

prisma smelt
prisma smelt
mint saddle
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Thank you for your time

prisma smelt
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no problem mate.

mint saddle
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Are you Filipino, just a question

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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Is psychology national subject of Philippians, my filipino friends have that too

prisma smelt
mint saddle
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I was being sarcastic

prisma smelt
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well, cant see that, lol.

mint saddle
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Ofcourse you cant, its the first time i am trying to be professional

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Otherwise i would have thousands of jokes in a conversation

prisma smelt
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but i get your point.

mint saddle
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Nice nice

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Alright, Bye Caelumius!!!

prisma smelt
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cya mate! do have a great day!