#I need help. Why are you all like this to me..?

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lost girder
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No matter how hard I try, the best I can do, I only get blocked off and ghosted for no shit reasons!

I only want to have a NORMAL friendship, a NORMAL relationship, a NORMAL conversation. Like, what the actual fuck is wrong with me!

I explain everything they need to understand.
No. I only friend them, ask them of how they feel, being kind, helpful, loveable and whatsoever.
And what the fuck do they do!? - They just freaking block me, like I'm piece of trash!!

My partner just broke up with me, just because I was scared to lose her after I said something flirty and made her uncomfortable out of accident. Dude, I didn't even mean it.
Why blocking me and throwing away the love just for this little thing.

I'm done with this shit, really. 80% of people in this server are begging for friends in the introduction, but then blocking you off or ghosting you just because you're being nice!?

WHEN. THE. FUCK. CAN. I. FINALLY. HAVE. COMPANY/FRIENDS. LIKE. REAL. PEOPLE. DO. IRL!?

It's nothing more I ask about, really. I'm all alone and bored all day, and it seems like that I'm not even allowed to have friends or what. Why are you all doing this to me. What have I even done?

I hate of how I get treated here. I just need friends, company, someone being there for me. I'm literally doing my best..

flint mural
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Maybe you’re looking for friendship in the wrong places or skimming between the lines. Folks who block and ghost you say’s more about their character than your own. Those people have problems. I’ve been on both sides of the coin. When I get distant it’s cause I have a fear of getting too close to be let down. Most of us are scared of rejection and some of us will avoid others before they have a chance to disappoint them. Finding the right person is a journey. Don’t give up. Get used to being told no and people going mia or afk. What is your definition of normal? What are your boundaries? What are your needs? Seek out people with similar values. Keep trying til you find the folks you clique with. Maybe your exes moral compass didn’t align with yours. There are over 8 billion people on this planet; there’s got to be like minded individuals who will meet you where you’re at. There’s got to be at least one soul mate in this vast sea we call earth. The rest will pick themselves apart like natural selection. We can’t please everyone. We all have haters. People come and go like a revolving door for a reason. Life is one big learning experience. Navigating relationships with others is a complex learning curve. Take time to re-evaluate and do some soul searching. Get comfortable in your own skin. There are two sides to every story. When fallout occurs there’s usually a part both parties played that led to the end in friend. Some doors aren’t worth opening. Don’t let it define your self worth or affect your perception as a person. Keep looking and carry on strong. You’ve got a whole lot of heart. Let it beat to the tune of your own drum. Try not to get lost in the white noise of others rhythms. You will find the unconditional love and support you need eventually. It takes time, patience, and perseverance. You’ve got to respect yourself. You don’t have to put up with the mistreatment or please others especially if you’re struggling to help yourself.

sage crane
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Tho I don't have much friends

flint mural
sage crane
# flint mural This! From personal experience I struggle to communicate effectively and voice m...

Yeah
Also just because you're being nice it doesn't mean someone wants to tell you how they feel, you dont know what they're struggling and maybe they don't even know it themselves

And that you also can accidentally said tth wrong things and makes people ok too uncomfortable to stay friends

Only part I feel like its unnecessary was when op's partner blocked them. Unless you weren't willing to listen or change, there's literally no reason for then to block you over something that small
Well unless you also made it into a big deal that is

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Sorry if I repeated your points btw

flint mural
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lost girder
# flint mural Maybe you’re looking for friendship in the wrong places or skimming between the ...

I've been treated like this for over a decade now. Since I was 4.
And it only gets more and more of them. I already don't even feel comfortable in my own skin anymore, which is why I because transsexual. And yet, it's only getting more and more.

I never had to hate on them, because they were so kind for me, being there for me and even looked like that way, but nope..

I'm just frustrating myself over and over again every single day; Why no one is speaking to me or why they blocked me even tho it's been alright before or even dated before.
It just feels like emotional abuse and shit like that. And I'm tired about it.

They even just block me after I said hi to them after they sent a request to me.
And even then, I always offer for them to talk openly about this, even it's about me. Because I really don't mind, I just want the best for everybody and everyone, no matter who it is.

lost girder
sage crane
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sage crane
# lost girder Wdym by willing to change and stuff?

Against what you did to her that made her uncomfortable
In this case, if you would listen to her that she was uncomfortable and you would stop saying stuff that makes her uncomfortable yet she still blocked you then it’s not your fault

I can’t blame her on anything nor do I dislike her btw, I can’t give an opinion as I don’t know her

lost girder
sage crane
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lost girder
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I hate it tho

sage crane