#I’m ace? Or straight? Or what?

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smoky ridge
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(Sorry for the textwall lol)

So, prior to a few days ago, i was very certain i was aroace. But… im not sure??

Im not sure if im actually attracted to anyone, but the thought of having a relationship is such a big no-go. Having a relationship seems like a straight downgrade, because it just creates stress, conflicts and other stuff that just makes life harder. And at what benefit? Well, in my eyes, none. I have had the occasional thought about dating, and on some very rare occasions i saw a girl and was like “wow.. she looks real pretty…” and was just… happy when i saw her… and cause idk what romance or whatever feels like i literally dont know what it was. Was it me liking her? Was it me just thinking she looks pretty? Man idk at this point, if you need some details, just ask for them

undone vigil
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Maybe you're aroace, seeing someone as pretty being happy with them doesn't mean anything. Anyway, I recommend to research!

earnest ocean
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Aroace can be a spectrum, so you can still feel little romantic or sexual attraction, It's little to none. Hope this helps! <3

elfin mist
# smoky ridge (Sorry for the textwall lol) So, prior to a few days ago, i was very certain i ...

this can be many things, I'll list some things I have knowledge on:

  1. oriented aroace: you are still aroace, but you feel aesthetic attraction, which is when you can see that someone is objectively pretty, but you personally don't feel sexual or romantic attraction towards them
  2. Graysexual: this is when you only feel sexual attraction under very certain circumstances or only very rarely
  3. Cupiosexual: this is when you can't, but want to feel sexual attraction, though, this is quite unlikely since you said you don't really want to, but it's not impossible because you claimed that you have had thoughts about it before.
elfin mist
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I don't think it's that because they said it didn't happen often, and coming from an acespike person, you feel a LOT of attraction during that period (e.g. I once had seven crushes within the span of one month) and I don't think it was demi because she said it was rare occasions, if it were demi, they'd feel it towards a lot of the people that they already knew