I've been thinking i've been trans for a long time but now i'm sure of it, do any of you have some sort of advice for me?
#I think im a transman..
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umbral kernel
I've been thinking i've been trans for a long time but now i'm sure of it, do an...
Congratulations! It's a big step deciding who you truly are. When I was certain I was female, I first came out to some close friends, then they helped me prepare and manage my anxiety when I came out to my parents about 2 months later. I would recommend coming out to your parents though, if you think your parents will be supportive, because they can help you pick out some male clothing or help you to feel male with your pronouns.
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thank you!! this really helps!
quartz fern
First of all, congratulations on figuring it out!
I'm transmasc myself, hope this helps. I usually separate transition in 2 parts that might happen one after another or not: self-discovery/acceptance and the "what now?" phase. It seems like you've figured out the first one, so let's talk about the second.
You're trans, so what? Now it's up to you what types of "transition" you want to go through.
Medically speaking, you can choose if you want to get HRT, top surgery, bottom surgery, facial/body masculinization etc. What helped me was realizing I had tons of dysphoria that really interfered in my day to day life. Breaking down these feelings, I noticed that the effects from T and getting top surgery would really improve my quality of life and basically reduce these feelings to zero. I also used charts to track my feelings and watched a lot of videos before actually undergoing any medical treatment so I could be more sure of it. I'm now almost a year on T and will have top surgery in 3 months and I can say T really changed my life.
The other important point of transition is the social aspect. Ok, you're trans. Do you want people to know? The first part of it is usually coming out and most people think you're obligated to do it. Not really, you can just live your life like always and pretend you're a cis woman forever. If you choose to come out, who do you want to come out to first? Who do you think will accept you? I came out to a few friends at first, in November 2023, then to my other group of friends in February 2024, then to my parents in April 2024 and finally to extended family in June 2024. All these steps helped me build confidence in my identity and create a support system if things went wrong.
I think these are the first steps of transition, feel free to reach out.