Coming out to help others?

[untold marten]

So the only place that could potentially be safe in my town is the library. They have been very clear from an overall policy level that everyone is accepted. However, there is one librarian that I am 100% certain is homophobic and transphobic. Since I work there as well, I know some important policy rules that give me an unusual opportunity. You will be fired immediately and have card privileges permanently revoked (closest they can legally do from banning someone) if you discuss what a specific person was looking at or discuss information related to a patron's checkouts with non-employees. If I were to check out a bunch of books on lgbt topics and heavily imply that I am trans without directly saying it, she will absolutely tell my parents. I will then have proof, through them asking me, that she revealed my private information. This would ruin my life, but make it safer for other people because she would be gone.

In case anyone is wondering how I know she will tell my parents, my mom is friends with her. I've had a ton of secrets about what I do while I work leaked through her.

[glossy oyster]

i don't suggest doing this because

1. you might not have enough documentation to fire her (i.e. you have it worked out in your head but in practice it might not work the way you think)
2. policies may be poorly enforced
3. your safety is important

because by the way you say ruin your life, your safety will be at risk

even when you want to self-sacrifice to help others you must consider the cost to you and the benefit to others

based on your description i think the benefits to others are minimal compared to the cost to you

[dawn radish]

I mean there have been multiple ||suicides|| by queer kids in my area, and she has used her position to deny them help when they needed it. There really is nowhere else safe, especially for trans and non-binary people, as the school system has basically decided they can't join the official pride group/club our school has set up. They allow cishet allies even, but if you aren't cis, you aren't allowed. It's stupid and I don't want any more people to have to go through this because of her.

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[Reply to:](#1410412682300882985 message) based on your description i think the benefits to others are minimal compared to the cost to you

[glossy oyster]

hmm ok i see

how is that even enforced i'm so confused

[dawn radish]

Anyone who is openly trans is not allowed in. I wouldn't be surprised if there is someone in the club who is closeted, but I have no way of knowing that.

[glossy oyster]

like the sponsor teacher just asks them to leave or?

[dawn radish]

You have to sign up. For safety reasons (as you may have guessed, it's super unsafe here) the meetings are held without public notice. The door remains locked and you have to sign up to join.

Said the sign up part twice

[glossy oyster]

what you "should" do really depends on your moral standards, your comfort level, and how screwed you'll be (i.e. if you can get on your feet quick or if your parents won't be happy but won't kick you out that'd be better)