#Is it wrong to seek validation?

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edgy oracle
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I feel depressed with my current emotional state. I have very low self-esteem that seems like non existent. When I finally got something to make people seem happy for me, it doesn't seem to last long and that doesn't satisfy me and makes me feel like everything I do, doesn't feel worth it, am I truly worth it?

Everything doesn't make sense now. I did everything I could to impress everyone, but it doesn't seem to last long... And nobody seems to congratulate me... I don't know anymore... I'm not doing anything right... I just wanted to feel like I'm loved for my writing... Is seeking validation wrong?

graceful sedge
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i don't think its wrong to seek validation from others, it's pretty normal.
Though you also need validation from yourself, like saying. "I love Name (Your self)"
Or "I like this part especially of my writing." Small things like that can make a difference, might be small, might be big.

edgy oracle
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I think that's because I don't really view myself that much, since I look at myself at the views of others

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It's complicated

graceful sedge
# edgy oracle I think that's because I don't really view myself that much, since I look at mys...

To me it sounds like your accidentally putting others on a pedestal, (Could be wrong) something i've realized is that others aren't ''Better" than you.
They might be better at a specific subject or something else, but they aren't better than you.

Small side thing, something that helped me is trying to socialise more. Even if its small interactions for example.

Hows your day going, What are you gonna do this weekend. Or Can you help me with this, Or Do you need help.
This is just something that have helped me.

edgy oracle
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I do realize what I'm doing and I'm trying to improve on it

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though sometimes I feel like I'm not doing enough

graceful sedge
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It's good that you realize that and even try improving on it.
To the feeling of not feeling good enough. You shouldn't think about it constantly, and you shouldn't let that feeling drag you down, Sometimes you just have to realize that you've done enough, and be proud of what you've done. (Sorry if I worded it in a confusing way)

edgy oracle
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I'm trying not to vent too much, so I might have gotten a bit carried away, mb

graceful sedge
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Its fine

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dw

edgy oracle
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Thanks btw... I feel a tiny bit better now