#How do I know if I’m bisexual or with comphet

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strong vessel
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strong vessel
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Someone help pls

tulip spire
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thick radish
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I think that you may be Bi with a preference, but its good to look thru photos of folks and try to figure out if You think they look good, or if they match societies' expectations of attractive.

sour flint
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i'm bi but a lot of the times i lean towards men and i feel stronger attraction to men

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sour flint
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but like the thing is so what

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if i see/meet a woman i find attractive and everything is right i'll ask her out maybe and if it works it works

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if i don't meet a woman where it works out in my lifetime and end up with a man or alone then it is what it is

strong vessel
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yeah ig

sour flint
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people who strictly identify as heterosexual/homosexual sometimes even make out or date someone "outside of their sexual orientation"

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humans are complicated and it happens

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because at the end of the day love is finding someone you feel comfortable with

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and it really doesn't matter how you identify

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if a person, whether that be a man or a woman, makes you happy and you like them then why does it matter

strong vessel
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cuz I don’t think I want to end up with a man, but it’s just… I dunno, lemme just talk abt my experience

strong vessel
# sour flint if a person, whether that be a man or a woman, makes you happy and you like them...

When I was younger, I loved a girl. When my mom discovered it, she said to me that it was a sim. Then, I stopped liking girls (so I thought). Then, I liked a guy who my best friend went out with. I stopped after I liked another guy who never made fun of me. In 8th grade, I realized liking girls wasn’t a sin, so I came out as pan to my friends, but I wondered if my feelings for boys were real, so I came out as lesbian. I tried coming out to my parents but they said I had to kiss someone to be a lesbian, I was sad. Oh, I also liked a friend and a girl named Julianna who is dating another girl rn (oof). But now there’s this guy named Rafael, my friend who I got shipped with for 4 YEARS IN A SEQUENCE COUNTING WITH THIS ONE. I never liked him but he’s just so nice to me that I’m doubting if it’s just a friend or more, and my friends think I’m lesbian

sour flint
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never felt things for women

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but once a girl started flirting with me and i was like hey i'm ok with this

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didn't end up leading to anything bc she was in a relationship which was shitty but it is what it is

sour flint
strong vessel
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but is it common to like… the feelings vanish for a while?

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bc I look at girls and I just don’t feel what I used to feel, like, feelings were so intense, could it be emotional exaustion?

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What if I was just confused?

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sour flint
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imagine you have a life partner and every time you see them your heart jumps out of its body basically

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and this person you're gonna live with for the rest of your life and live together with at some point presumably

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i mean infatuation is normal strong feelings are normal

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but they are not what love is

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think about it how do you want to feel around the person you will live with for the rest of your life

sour flint
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i haven't liked anyone since but i think if i were to id probably keep them at a distance

strong vessel
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Ig it is even harder if your whole family is christian and your dad is a bit shitty

sour flint
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deep down as i've gotten older i've begun to understand that my mother only believes that

  1. the world is cruel to queer people
  2. she doesn't want the world to be cruel to me
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but she doesn't express that the best way

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people say homophobia is not a phobia but it is 100% fear driven

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she didn't accept me at first not because she had anything against queer people but because she feared society would be cruel to me

sour flint
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i'm just offering my experience

strong vessel
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thank you sm!

sour flint
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but sometimes people have mental issues and traumatic experiences that warp their ability to figure out what's best for their children

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and a lot of it is driven by fear, im sure your parents fear idk that you'll go to hell or something that's probably why they reacted the way they did

strong vessel