i came out to my nana and now she is refussing to call my pefred prouns

[ivory girder]

So what happen is that i came out to my mom and dad as enby and my mom is great using they/Them my dad is trying and thats oki but i came out to my nana and every time i corret her she gose "there is only girl and boy thats it so your a girl" what do i do?

[fickle falcon]

doesn't make it ok but she's old, i'm assuming, and her thinking is rigid

you could try telling her stuff like you're not me how can you tell me who to be but tbh changing her mind is probably very difficult if not impossible, for anyone but especially at her age

[ivory girder]

Thanks also idk if it matters but she's 58 and my mum is lesbisan

[prisma knoll]

Ask your mom to talk to her about it. Because if she support your mom and she doesn't support you its a bit weird

[fickle falcon]

so if she accepts your mom maybe she just needs time

changing people's mind is like planting a seed:
you have to wait for it to sprout under the right conditions. There's always a chance the seed won't sprout and you can't force it to sprout. however, once it sprouts it'll grow slowly but surely

[ivory girder]

Thanks

[opaque igloo]

This is like an example you could tell her :

If your name was Natalie and you went by 'nat' and then I've day decided you didn't like that and wanted to go by "tally" instead, everyone would respect that call you tally right,, it's the same thing for pronouns,, it's not confusing and it's not anything new you have to learn

😑 the spelling mistakes