#I can out as non binary to my father a few weeks ago and he’s not using my preferred pronouns

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crisp tangle
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So for context: My name is Camila and I’m fourteen years old. I was born and raised in Chile which, by the way, is the most progressive nation is South America in terms of LGBTQ rights but it’s still a pretty homophobic nation. I am living in Australia now. My parents are very divorced. My mum is very supportive of my gender identity. My father not so much.

My father is homophobic but not extremely, he’s also a tad sexist . He struggled to come to terms with the fact that I am Lesbian when I told him a year ago (still asks when I’m gonna bring a guy home). I came out to him as non binary a few weeks ago and asked to be referred to as ‘they/them’ but he still refers to me as ‘she/her’.

When he refers to me and my siblings (of which there are 4) he calls us ‘his guys and girls’. It hurts me that he’s not referring to me how I wish to be referred to.

I am not looking for any advice or tips. I just wanted to vent into the void.

If you do have any advice though, I will gladly listen.

sage spindle
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keep reminding him of your preferred pronouns and labels, if he doesnt respect them after a while, screw him. he's not worth your time. ignore him.

wary bolt
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Go live with ur mom then

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If that jerk won't respect ur pronouns a Fter reminding him many times go live with mom so u don't have do deal with this shit

craggy shadowBOT
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I don't believe that the kids ever have much say in that

Cory ↩️

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sage spindle
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yeah sadly

crisp tangle
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If I could I would go live with my mum but with the situation I’m in I don’t really have a choice. My mum lives in Australia which is where I am for the Australian school year and during the holidays I’m with my dad in Canada

wary bolt
gloomy wind
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I'm sorry for that... Well, at least there will always have people who support you, like ur mother! No matter what he say, you are still you, non-binary or not. Your father should know gender doesn't change the person, only how they are refered at!