I know my parents won't accept me if i come out...

[fast edge]

So i am pansexual and non binary, my parents are really lgbtquia+ phobic and often makes really evil and harmfull jokes about our comunity... like my father making fun of non binary people telling they identify as a cucuber or washing Machines... i would like to tell them but i've asked my mother already if she had a "lgbt kid" how would she react and she said "disapointed"... My father always wants me to find a boyfriend nearly anywhere and it's so anoying! I'd like to have a androgynous appearance and for that i would need to tell them and for them to accept me for who i am really... maybe i should wait to have a job and a home to be secured but it mean that i'll need to wait for like 5-6 years minimum... and i don't know if i'll be able to keep going that long...

[dapper rampart]

Just remember coming out isn’t needed, if you know that it will affect you negatively you should probably not come out unless you’re ready to face what can come out of it. Never come out if it makes you feel uncomfortable

[fast edge]

i would like to come out as soon as possible but when your father is alcoolic, treated you of mistakes and your mother is stric, hopping for you to be her second chance to succed in life it's really hard. All my friends alresdy knows about my sexualith and gender but for me to really ne happy with how i look like i have to tell my parents, i'm feeling really bad in my body and would like to have a packer and to choose more freely my clothes... i'm accepting that i'm born a woman but i still need to be more androgynous, and for now it's impossible...

[dapper rampart]

Unfortunately life isn’t always in your favour, if you simply can’t come out without it being a negative you can’t handle your gonna have to deal with it until you have enough pride and confidence. But just remember if you want to have life go your way your gonna have to push your way through, and life is very hard to move

[fast edge]

at first i was waiting to meet my special someone but now that i don't have hope in love anymore...

[dapper rampart]

Just remember I’m always here if you need to vent or talk, you come back here or go to my dms, it’s up to you

[fast edge]

thanks, i'm very happy to have joined that discord serv you all are so sweet❤

[mystic scarab]

Same situation here, I’ll share my mindset and plans in the hope that helps :3

I haven’t yet come out to my parents because my parents are the most Christian and conservative people known to man. Obviously, this isn’t going to go well and I’m prioritising my physical wellbeing over being expressive in the home. It sucks, a lot, because you have to shut away half your identity but it’s a lot better than the other outcome in my situation.

Also, there’s some really cool people on here and in various other lgbtq communities you’re more than welcome to chat to and make friends with. Perk of this is that you can just be yourself too, without having to shut your identity away like you are currently doing irl.

Obviously I don’t know your exact situation so I can’t give you a step by step guide or anything, but I hope you can kinda see what I went for and use it to help your own journey :)

Good luck!!

[patent raven]

you can probably find a support system and come out otherwise

like to friends or to a club

like the first group of people i came out to was the lacrosse team, and i felt like i was out even before i "publicly came out"

[fast edge]

oh yeah i see thanks, it could help me to be more myself here on discord indeed!

[fast edge]

lacross team? never heard of it

[patent raven]

aha you're not american

it's a sport but this sport really only exists in america