why can’t i be like others? My sister is always better and i lost a lot of confidence due to her pointing out things i did wrong, saying, oh, you just noticed? ok, and? And i never know what to say. Im also indecisive, I cant pick sides, i dont want people to be mad at me just because of a small decision. And now people get mad at me for not being able to make small decisions. Im insecure about my body, my friends are thin and never seem to gain weight even if they’re eating a lot. I have more fat on my legs and stomach, which has always frustrated me, and when im alone i scream in my head that i look pregnant. Another factor of weight insecurity, im Korean, and it shouldn’t matter when it comes to body type, i dont live in Korea, but with the exception of Korean girls being thin, i feel pressured to lose weight. Next is interests and skills. I dont have a lot of interests, just art, kpop, archery, books, and BL, and i cant include BL since people will judge me for that, especially because im a girl. And kpop, also something people judge, i dont understand because its pop but korean. I dont listen to western artists, but i dont hate on them. Art is the one thing ive done since i was a kid and the art i did was random sh*t and i always copied others. i was the art kid of the class, i got used to it. It made me feel wanted, people asked me for help. But in grade 7, things changed. There were twins, a boy and girl. Im friends with both, we all like art. but theyre more skilled. Everyone glorified them. i was tossed to the side and barely looked at, my art skills paled in comparison. During art periods, all i heard was their names and can you help me with this? i couldnt be mad at them, they’re my friends. i was mad at everyone else. I was struggling from the work i didnt do, the number went from one digit, two, and three. My teacher always included me, saying the THREE artists were me and the two friends. But no one cared, they were too focused on the other two.
#Why can’t i be like them?
foggy violet
foggy violet
If anyone reads all this thank you so much and also if you have any advice or thoughts to share please let me know 🙏🏻
fallow shoal
It's human nature to compare ourselves with others even I use to do it ngl there are indeed some people who r better than us in many things but it doesn't mean we should give up we should work hard not to surpass them but for ourselves and our self growth if they r more talented than u then u have to work harder than them coz at the end hardwork beats talent , also no one is perfect everyone has some kind of drawbacks ,society wants every person to be perfect but the irony is no one is perfect , people judge you that's true they judge u at anything u do but best way is to ignore such people and be with people who love u as u r , there must be things u r good at than others u just need to work harder on that field to make u irreplaceable (that's my personal opinion) and then people will need u so u should work harder on ur art not to be better than those two friends of yours but to be better than ur previous self and u should stop comparing urself with others and be happy okay , have a good day XD
foggy violet
It's human nature to compare ourselves with others even I use to do it ngl ther...
I just saw this and it made me feel a lot better, thank you 🫶🏻