One of my friends told me and A, 4 months ago that she was gonna commit. She didn't end up committing but A reacted very badly and cried while I just froze. Recently me and A had a petty argument over something stupid and I called him a crybaby because of that incident and I knew it was wrong but I was too angry to admit that. I'm fucking stupid and I ruined a friendship over nothing. How can I go about making it up to this person?
#I'm a piece of shit
wise raptor
wise raptor
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tall carbon
One of my friends told me and A, 4 months ago that she was gonna commit. She did...
Okay. We all get defensive because of stuff that feels overwhelming. But you got to try let those petty arguements go. Agree to dis-agree. We all have our own opinions anx we are happy to toot them like our rear ends. But sometimes it's better to just let them win the arguement and leave it at that to save the friendship.
Being angry and wrong at the same time and then realising it's too late to take it back requires you to stop, think and listen. You're not stupid at all. Stuff like this happens all the time in friends groups.
Making it up to the person is a process, a marathon, not a sprint. First start off by deeply apologizing and then make it up to them by talking to them calmly. If it gets too heated. Just ask them, "Could we talk somewhere in public? Or somewhere we'd both be safe?"
And it doesn't mean you cut yourself. Please don't do it anymore. You're more than welcomed to DM me when times are tough. I'm happy for you to vent.
wise raptor
Okay. We all get defensive because of stuff that feels overwhelming. But you got...
Thank you
tall carbon
Thank you
Welcomed to DM me anytime. And if you need more advice. Happy to help. All you got to do is message :)
wise raptor
I did it again, but I cleaned it this time. I cleaned it and I put a bandage on it, it's not me stopping but it's something, right?
tall carbon
I did it again, but I cleaned it this time. I cleaned it and I put a bandage on ...
First, you got to stop and put the object you're using away from sight, and then tell a family member about it. Then you got to realise, to go outside and smell the flowers. Friendships come and go, but your life is worth more value than anything else in the world.