how can I talk about my gender with my family

[muted urchin]

i'm gender fluid and my family is transfobic, but I really want tell them
that's all

[woven vessel]

tell them lol

you say they are transphobic but you also say you want to tell them?

[muted urchin]

they already said transphonic things, like, in my country we recently have an facilitator for the enter of trans people on university and they said bad things

but I really want to buy new clothes and can be honest with them

[rough sand]

Put your safety first

Obviously you should come out eventually

But you should prioritize being safe and not in a situation where you could get hurt

[muted urchin]

I'm going to university after next year, you tink these would be a great time to tell?

[rough sand]

Maybe

Of course, you know your situation better than me

You could also tell them remotely from university

And that is pretty low-risk compared to telling them in person

[muted urchin]

you are right, thanks for helping

[rough sand]

No problem!

[storm bobcat]

weigh the pros and cons

what do you gain by coming out and what are the risks?

do a risk benefit analysis and if there's no reason to or if it puts you in a worse position then i wouldn't