I'm doing smth wrong

[hollow topaz]

I'm turning 18 next year in March and I'm feeling awful, everyone around me has been in a relationship and most of them have like close partners who feel almost like their soulmates. I don't have any of that, I don't even have this kind of best friend you can share everything with, tell them whatever knowing they won't judge you, just the best friend stuff. And all people I know that I maybe tell my life to when smth wrong is happening already have a best friend. I feel so lost and alone in this aspect. I think I might be doing something wrong if no one wants to be with me; I've already confessed to like 2 people throughout my teenage years and both were hard rejects. I feel my adolescence is slipping from my hand and I haven't experienced what most do. Love.

[supple reef]

I don´t think that you´re doing anything wrong. The most important thing is that you love yourself. If you love yourself, other people will eventually like you too. Having a lover at 18 isn´t even the most common thing and most relationships that form before the age of 18 fail, so I´d recommend you to not overthink it. Everybody wants to be in a loved by someone and love someone and that is normal, but just because of that people often rush this whole "love" thing way too much. Love takes time and doesn´t just come quickly and go. Why do you think are most of the parents 20-30 years older then their kids? Friendships also are something that some people can develop easier and some can develop harder. It isn´t your fault that you don´t have something like a Lover or a Best Friend right now, you just haven´t found the right person yet. Hope I could help

[plain turret]

the average age of marriage is like 25. the average age of marriage for those with advanced degrees is like 30. maybe you're just onto something 🧠 💡

also what your peers are experiencing isn't love, it's infatuation

one cannot love someone one doesn't know and one cannot love well if one doesn't love themself, and most teens don't even know themselves

it took me getting hurt by getting into a situationship to realize this

[hollow topaz]

But there's the possibility I never find it. Most people already have best friends, I'm just left alone normally

[hollow topaz]

I can assure you, some of them have long term relationships and I'm pretty sure that's love what exists between some of em

[hollow topaz]

That's what my psychologist told me and I've been working a bunch on that, I love, respect and accept myself and yet nothing